We’ve always heard people around us saying, “Parenthood changes you.” In the same vein, we think embarking on an open adoption journey has the ability to change people. We are not too far along our journey–only about five months–but it has changed us already.
Before we started the process, we were two results-driven, career-oriented individuals who were vaguely aware of open adoption-related issues. Here’s how our journey has changed us: Continue reading →
This guest post is by Dana, a hopeful adoptive parent.
This summer I had the opportunity to share a wonderful conversation with a dear family friend. We were on vacation, walking up and down the beach and talking very openly with one another. On this walk he commented that it seemed that Chris, my husband, and I were doing “better.”
It was true we were doing better–feeling more at peace related to the babies we lost (in pregnancy) and we were also giving in to the fact that the adoption process was much more beyond our control than we originally thought, which in turn allowed us to start enjoying life a little more fully. Continue reading →
This is the first post in an ongoing series called “Ask An Adoption Attorney“–your open adoption questions answered by a legal expert. This week, we had two attorneys weigh in on the following question from Tracy:
In Maine it is not legal to advertise for adoption, but advertising isn’t defined. Would placing an adoption business card or a flyer on a bulletin board be considered advertising? Or is advertising typically something you pay for? What about mailing your information to people you are only acquainted with, like your dentist, for example? Just wondering where that line is… Continue reading →
Among all my married colleagues and friends, I’m the only one who doesn’t have a child. A few years ago, it didn’t really bother me.
But over time, I started noticing that I was being left out: left out of get-togethers (that were predominantly child-oriented), left out of emails, and left out of conversations (again predominantly focused on children).
I also noticed that people were starting to ask questions or make assumptions about why I wasn’t having a baby. They were surprised that as a woman in her thirties, I don’t have at least a pre-teen. That’s when it started getting to me. Continue reading →
On Friday, I told you about my failed attempt to buy an e-reader. But my experience wasn’t a complete waste of time. After noticing the parallels between my shopping excursion and the experience of writing a parent profile, I managed get a blog post out of it.
Today, I want to return to the subject, although I promise this will be the last time. That’s because I realized that if I thought choosing an e-reader was tough, imagine how a prospective birth mother must feel about having to pick out an adoptive family from what seems like an endless array of parent profiles. Continue reading →
Just starting the private domestic adoption process? Looking for ways to succeed quickly?
Sorry, you won’t find any secrets or shortcuts here. But if you thought you could buy your way to success, think again. Finding a match by outspending other hopeful adoptive parents is one of the (many) misconceptions about private domestic adoption. And it’s one that came up again this afternoon when I clicked on this headline in my news feed: “Time for adoption reform is now.” Continue reading →
I don’t know about you, but once again my holiday shopping plans have taken a turn for the worse. My problem isn’t in finding what I want. It’s in making a decision.
Earlier this month, I set my sights on buying an e-reader. But with so many products, models, and styles to choose from, I got so overwhelmed that I eventually gave up and came home empty-handed. Maybe I should stick to paperbacks, after all.
My shopping experience may have been a bust for me. But if you’re a waiting adoptive parent in the process of writing a parent profile, here are three pointers from it that may be useful for you. Continue reading →
Actually, they’re already here. In the last few weeks, two domestic scam stories have made national headlines. And who knows how many others are out there that haven’t made it on the news.
Finding yourself on the receiving end of an domestic adoption scam is not a pleasant experience. But having it happen now — as your thoughts turn to the new year and the possibility of a new baby joining your family — is demoralizing. And, more to the point, just plain cruel. Continue reading →
Want to find out more about birth mother or father rights or open adoption agreements but don’t have the time — or the budget — to hire an attorney?
Our new “Ask An Adoption Attorney” feature can help you find the answer. Simply post your question in the comments section below. We’ll forward it, along with the others we receive, to an attorney specializing in open adoption. Then we’ll post the results here. Your question could be among those that gets chosen.