10 Lessons Anyone Hoping To Adopt Can Learn From the Oscars

Did you watch the Academy Awards? What did you think of the show?

The show attracted nearly 40 million viewers in the U.S., proving yet again that despite all the grumbling it generates, Oscar is alive and well at the ripe old age of 84.

Clearly, when it comes to connecting with its audience, the Academy Awards can teach a thing or two to the rest of us. And that includes waiting adoptive parents who are hoping to find a match with expectant parents considering adoption for their child.

So, cue the orchestra and raise the red velvet curtain: Here are 10 things that waiting parents who are hoping to adopt can learn from Hollywood’s biggest night of the year. Continue reading

The Secret of Success in Open Adoption

This guest post is by Michelle Erich at Michelle Erich Law.

To find success in open adoption, you have to spread the word about your dream to adopt and communicate effectively. In my experience as an adoption attorney over the past two decades, I’ve found that successful adoption efforts are more about open communication than
anything else.

Hopeful adoptive parents frequently ask me if wealth, religion, ethnicity or age are factors that may aid or hinder adoption efforts.  I can tell you that I have had parents chosen who were all colors and ethnicities from early twenties to mid sixties, strongly religious to atheistic, owning multiple high end homes in select locales or renting a double wide in a mobile home park. Continue reading

Why I Love Open Adoption

Valentine’s Day may have come and gone, but I still feel like celebrating. The roses (or tulips, in our case) still haven’t wilted, the chocolates still haven’t melted, and the sense of connectedness that the day brings still hangs in the air.

Earlier this week I told you what others love about open adoption. Today, I’d like to share what I love about it. Continue reading

20 Reasons To Love Open Adoption

Happy Valentine’s Day! Since this is the day for lovers, we figured it was the perfect time to celebrate what people love about open adoption.

Adoptive parents, birth parents, waiting parents, adoptees and adoption professionals–they’ve all weighed in with their thoughts. Open adoption, how do we love thee? Let us count the ways. Continue reading

How To Write About Infertility In Your Adoption Profile

I don’t know the exact statistic–one study I came across says it could be as high as 80 percent–but it’s safe to say that most people who pursue an open adoption do so as a result of infertility. That’s what brought us to it, and it might be what led you there as well.

For many couples, infertility isn’t simply the starting point of their adoption journey.  It’s the catalyst that sets the whole process in motion. It plays a huge role. The question is, how big a role should it play in your adoption profile? Continue reading

Tired Of Waiting To Adopt? Here Are Some Unexpected Benefits You May Have Never Considered

Remember that old Tom Petty song, “The Waiting Is The Hardest Part”? Boy, he wasn’t kidding.

Waiting, of course, is part of life. It’s also part of the open adoption process. A big part. In fact, if you’re going through it now, you can be forgiven for thinking it’s the only part.

From beginning your home study to finding a match, it seems like every step of the way you’re either waiting for something or waiting for someone. Continue reading

How Not To Begin A “Dear Birthmother” Letter

If you’re trying to build your family through open adoption, chances are you have more than a passing familiarity with what’s known as a “Dear Birthmother” letter.

“Dear Birthmother” letters have been around for as long as open adoption has. Visit any open adoption agency or networking website today and you’ll find scores of them–sometimes dozens, sometimes hundreds–prominently displayed throughout their pages.

First and foremost, a “Dear Birthmother” letter is a a marketing tool–a document written by hopeful adoptive parents like you to expectant parents who are considering adoption for their child.

In anywhere from 500-2000 words, it gives you the chance to paint a portrait of yourself, describing your life, interests, family, home, reasons for adopting and the future you can offer a child. The hope is that upon reading your letter, the expectant parents will connect with you and eventually choose you as parents for their child. Continue reading