How My Adoptive And Biological Dads Helped Me Understand Openness In Adoption

This guest post is by Kim Wallis, a hopeful adoptive mother. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day.

I think I was luckier than most daughters because I had two dads. I was adopted when I was 15 by my step-father — probably not an age that most think of when adoption comes to mind. He’d been co-parenting me since I was 7 when he married my mom.

Our new family moved for a few years to Singapore from Canada, where I am from, and then for good to Raleigh, North Carolina when I was 12. It then became apparent that adoption would be the best for me as my relationship with my biological dad had become more difficult as his ability to parent across the miles was near impossible. Continue reading

Being Contacted By Prospective Birthmothers: What I’ve Learned

This guest post is by Don, a hopeful adoptive father. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day.

My wife and I started our adoption journey approximately a year ago.  During this time we’ve been contacted five times by prospective birth moms.  Unfortunately none of these contacts worked out for various reasons beyond our control.  I am not sure how typical this experience is for couples pursuing open adoption, but I wanted to share a few things I’ve learned through these experiences. Continue reading

Manifesting Destiny: Gay Fatherhood Through Open Adoption

This guest post is by Casey Cavalier, a hopeful adoptive father. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day.

I came out during The Reagan Years. I was twenty-years-old and parenthood was not at the forefront of my mind. This was not because I was young.

It was because most gay men in those days did not see fatherhood or marriage as a possibility. Our community was fighting the AIDS epidemic and not becoming a statistic took precedence. Starting a family seemed a frivolous dream that came and went. But it was a dream I never let die. Continue reading

A Prospective Adoptive Dad: What Father’s Day Means To Me

This guest post is by Ethan Curtis, a hopeful adoptive father. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day.

On Father’s Day this year, my wife and I will celebrate like we do every year. We’ll both call our fathers and wish them a great day, then we’ll go out and barbecue with some close friends who have children.

Father’s day tends to have special meaning for my wife and I, as we were both born on Father’s Day a year apart, and my birthday happens to fall on the day again this year. Continue reading

We Love You, Birthdaddy

This post is by Russ Elkins, the author of Open Adoption, Open Heart: An Adoptive Father’s Inspiring Journey. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day.

 “The birthfather just arrived,” my wife said to me in a text message. “Don’t worry, you’ll like him. He’s really easy to talk to.”

When we were going through the adoption process for a second time I sat at home with our 17 month old son trying to get some work done. It wasn’t easy to check things off my To-Do list when my mind was at the hospital waiting for our daughter to be born. Continue reading

Free: A Birthfather’s Story

This post is by Shane Lynen, a birthfather who blogs at Northern Lights. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day.

Open and honest.  That’s a phrase which has been used around our house a lot in the past 13 months.  We have used that phrase as the base for every discussion in that time.  We made a commitment to be open and honest with everyone in this family on every topic because the pain of secrecy had almost ripped us all apart. Continue reading

Adoption Isn’t Just About Mothers — Dads Are Expecting, Too!

This post is by Josh, a hopeful adoptive father. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day.

I’ve always had positive feelings toward adoption. For one reason or another, I just always assumed I would have biological kids. However, I can’t say I’ve ever had a drive to have a little one with my DNA. While reproduction is supposedly an innate drive, my interest in becoming a father is more about loving a little one (and later a big one) and helping in their development and growth. Continue reading

Why Our Adoption Was Meant To Be

This guest post is by Scott Phelps, an adoptive father. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day.

It was a Wednesday afternoon in Tucson, Arizona and my wife, Kala, was up in Prescott Valley taking our son’s birthmother “A” to a doctor’s appointment.

My wife and I were very fortunate to have gotten to know “A” and develop a relationship with her. All day I had been thinking about our pending arrival and something told me I needed to leave work early. Continue reading

My Dream To Become An Adoptive Daddy

This guest post is by Tim Elder, an adoptive father and founder of the Infant Adoption Guide. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day.

This is the dream of thousands of men every year, and it was my dream too — to adopt a newborn and finally become a daddy.

I have to admit that adoption wasn’t the way I thought my wife and I would grow our family — even after being married for a few years and having a biological child wasn’t easily happening for us. Continue reading

How We Created An Adoptive Family Of Two Fathers

This guest post is by Steven G. Dubin, an adoptive father and adoption attorney. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day.

When we think about adoption and Father’s Day, it brings a flood of memories.  Our own, and memories created by our clients, which we have been privileged to share.

Our first two-dad family walked through our office doors well over a dozen years ago. They were college-educated, smart, loving, and in a committed relationship with one another for many years. They had loving families, good friends and good jobs. Continue reading