How We Wrote Our Adoption Profile Letter

alex1Is there a secret to writing a successful adoption profile letter? Some magic formula that will allow you to be true to yourself and still make a lasting impression on prospective birthparents?

Those are some of the many questions that hopeful adoptive parents struggle with when putting together their profile. Continue reading

When A Prospective Birthmother Calls: 6 Ways To Make The Most Of Your First Conversation

ListenIs there anything more stressful than getting that first phone call from a prospective birthmother? A job interview perhaps? A blind date?

To be sure, they’re nerve-wracking. But at least you know what you’re getting into. A call from a prospective birthmother, on the other hand, is a totally different and unfamiliar experience, one that typically comes out of the blue and could change your life forever. Continue reading

LGBT Adoption: One Family’s Dream To Adopt

mandmManuel and Michael have been together for 11 years and have had their adoption profile online since last year. The fact that they’re a same-sex couple makes no difference to them. They know their love for their future child and their future child’s birth family will be as strong and as deep as any love can be.

But as a LGBT family, they also know they face unique challenges that other hopeful adoptive families never have to think about. Recently I caught up to the couple from our adoption profiles page and asked them about those challenges and how they’re dealing with them, and about what they’re doing to get matched with prospective birthparents. Continue reading

What Not To Do After You’ve Been Matched With A Prospective Birthmother

Nursery ArtWhen Sarah learned she had been matched with a prospective birthmother, she couldn’t wait to tell her friend, Dawn. Dawn had been her No. 1 supporter throughout her adoption journey so it only seemed right to let her in on the good news. Little did Sarah know that she was about to set off one of the most heartbreaking and embarrassing chapters in her life.

Excited for Sarah, Dawn told her friends, who in turn told their friends, until it seemed like everyone knew about Sarah’s adoption match. What they didn’t know is that a few days after Sarah broke the news to Dawn, the prospective birthmother announced that she had changed her mind and decided to parent. Continue reading

Thinking About Adoption For Your Baby? One Birthmother’s Story

camylaWhen you’re thinking about adoption for your baby, there are so many factors to consider: your baby’s future, of course, but also the wants and needs of your baby’s father, your family, his family, the hopeful adoptive family, the adoption agency, the hospital staff, etc.

Camyla knows just how complicated, and crowded, the open adoption process can get. Eight years ago, the 26-year-old birthmother placed her baby with an adoptive family. Today, she’s writing a book to help expectant parents who may be considering adoption to prepare for the road ahead. Continue reading

Birthmother Changing Her Mind? What You Need To Know

and how can you mend a broken heartIt’s every hopeful adoptive parent’s worst nightmare: after waiting for what seems like any eternity, you’ve finally been matched with a woman who says she wants to place her baby with you. Not only do you like her. Over the last few months you’ve really gotten to know her: exchanged photos, seen ultrasounds of the baby, and spent time with her and her family.

Everything has run smoothly. You couldn’t be happier.

But suddenly, as she approached her due due, things change. She doesn’t call you back the way she used to. She stops sending you email updates. Conversations are short and tense, like she’s in a rush to get off the phone. Continue reading