9 Signs The Adoptive Parents Will Close Your Adoption — And What You Can Do About It Before Placement

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Finding adoptive parents for your baby can be a rewarding experience if you find yourself unexpectedly pregnant and decide you’re not ready to parent.

But as with any big life-changing decision, there is no guarantee that everything will go according to plan.

Things change, and people do, too.

For instance, right now, before the placement, the adoptive parents you’ve chosen may want lots of openness in your relationship (phone calls, emails, visits, etc.).

But after the adoption gets finalized, they may change their mind. Continue reading

Your Online Adoption Profile Is A Hit. A Prospective Birthmother Calls. Now What?

Invisible PhoneHave you posted your adoption profile online? Are you waiting for a prospective birthmother to call? Do you know what to say to her when she does?

If you don’t, you’re not alone.

Starting a conversation with someone who calls you out of the blue is never easy. But when that someone happens to be the one person in the world who can make your adoption dream come true, it’s even extra nerve-wracking.

Luckily there are things you can say and do to make the most of the experience and take your relationship with a prospective birthmother to the next level. Continue reading

3 Things Expectant Mothers Look For When Choosing Adoptive Parents

Look at the windowI’ve never been very good at mind reading. But I found myself doing a lot of it back when we were adopting.

We had just finished our home study and had completed our education and training courses. All the paperwork and preparation was behind us.

There was only thing left to do: find an expectant mother who was looking for adoptive parents for her baby.

That was all fine and good except for one thing: Despite all of the courses I took and books I read, I had no idea how to do it. Or, more importantly, what an expectant mother was looking for.

Like many hopeful adoptive parents, I got caught up thinking about all of the things I imagined were important to her. Our ages. Our location. Our religion. Continue reading

How to Stay Hopeful When You’re Hoping to Adopt a Baby

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Few events in life can compare to the joy of adopting a baby. Having a baby placed in your arms is for many adoptive parents the culmination of a lifelong dream.

But the journey you have to undergo to get there can be a slog. From making peace with your infertility to sharing personal details about your health, finances and relationships, staying upbeat and positive can be a challenge. Particularly if your journey feels like it’s consisted of nothing more than moving from one waiting list to another.

Here are 10 ways to stay hopeful while you’re hoping to get to the finish line. Continue reading