Joi Wasill is a mom on a mission: A mission to correct people’s outdated perceptions about birthmothers and adoption.
It all started when her son, Jacob, then nine, presented his adoption story to his class. One response in particular stung. ”Hmmm, so your real mom didn’t want you?” a classmate asked him.
Joi got a similar reaction when she shared Jacob’s adoption story with friends: they thought Jacob was lucky and that his adoptive parents were great, but they had nothing nice to say about his birthmother.
But the real turning point came when a friend’s teenage daughter got pregnant and made an adoption plan, only to change her mind after receiving negative comments from classmates and teachers.
“’Don’t you love your baby?” people asked her. “No one will ever love the baby like you do. Your baby will grow up to hate you for giving it up for adoption.”
Joi knew there was another side to adoption — one that was missing from the conversations in her community and schools. Continue reading →
This guest post is byCourtney Johnson, an adoptive mother.
Open adoption is a wonderful thing. We adopted our first son in 2011 and our second son in 2014.
Although both adoptions are open, at the beginning of the process we were very scared about the whole idea. We thought that if we had an open adoption, the birthmother might change her mind and want her baby back.
We also thought it would cause confusion in our children’s minds as they got older. Our biggest fear was that we would love a child so much and then we would lose them.
The way we overcame our fears was by doing a lot of research and talking to other people who had adopted.
It made us feel so much better not only about open adoption but also about what closed adoption means.
Let me tell you a story about a closed adoption. Someone very close to me was adopted, and they were not told who their biological parents where and what their true background was.
The sad fact is they didn’t have the best childhood or adulthood. Every day they struggled with their identity and about where they truly belonged. After having seen this for myself I knew that this would never be an option for me and my family. Continue reading →