As an adoptive mom and part of a multiracial family, I often catch people staring at me and my son in confusion.
My husband, Noah, and I are Caucasion. Our son, Kelvin, who was placed with us in 2013, is clearly of Asian heritage. His birth mother is full Korean-American and his birth father is Irish and German American.
Once, at a flea market, an old man asked me, “What’s his mix?” I laughed, but my friend replied “He’s not a puppy!”
Some people may find comments like this rude and offensive, and admittedly just the sheer repetition of it can get annoying.
But often I find myself wondering about the stories they are constructing in their heads.
Sometimes when our family is together, people will stare, put the pieces of the puzzle together, and then lose interest.
But other times, you just don’t know what jumbled and awkward thoughts will come out of their mouths.
Here are some of the favorite questions and encounters we’ve gotten as a family. Continue reading →
This guest post is by Chris Hargrove and Troy Turnipseed, adoptive parents.
One night a couple weeks ago, as we headed to bed and were turning off the lights in the upstairs hall outside our baby nursery, Chris asked, “Is it weird that we have a furnished nursery and we don’t have a baby?”
Troy thought about it for a moment. “Well,” he said, “I didn’t think it was weird until you asked if it was weird.”
Continuing into our nighttime routine of teeth brushing, a Golden Girls episode and winding down with our dogs, we talked about it some more.
“No, it’s not weird,” Troy continued. “We are going to be dads! We just don’t know when. So it’s better to be ready for when the time comes!”