Of all the birthmother myths—and there are many!—none stings more than the accusation that birthmothers “give up” their children.
And yet despite the advent of open adoption 30 years ago and the more active role that birthmothers play in the placement process today, the stereotype that they are heartless, teenage drug addicts who “give up” or “give away” their babies still persists.
“I could never give up my baby,” some people will say, when hearing about a placement story.
They might not, but many birthmothers don’t either.
Birthmothers are individuals, just like the rest of us. They are daughters, sisters, aunts, friends, co-workers, and neighbors. They have their good points and bad ones, their ups and downs.
To paint them all with the same brush not only also robs them of their individuality and uniqueness, it doesn’t do justice to their decision to place. Continue reading →
This guest post is by Paige Knipfer, an adoptive mother.
We have yet to have our daughter as long as you did. She is now six months but you carried her for nine months.
You carried her all that time knowing that you would eventually place her for adoption. To me, that is the true definition of humility and sacrifice.
You chose to keep her in this world and provided us with a family.
Although it’s a closed adoption and there isn’t a lot I know about you, I imagine that you experienced offensive comments and questions as you went through your pregnancy and created your adoption plan.