This guest post is by Emily Brunett, a birthmother.
No matter how much you prepare, sometimes you just can’t find all the answers. This was true for me when I chose adoption.
My son Dominic was placed at birth about 15 months ago in an open adoption. When I was pregnant and faced with the adoption decision, I scoured the Internet looking for answers.
Research quickly changed my faint idea of adoption to a more concrete understanding of the options, process and laws.
I exchanged emails and phone calls with adoption professionals from various agencies in three different states.
One of the reasons I chose the agency that eventually handled my adoption was because my social worker/pregnancy counselor was so helpful, patient and forthcoming.
But even though I asked a thousand questions and had a social worker and an agency who bent over backwards to guide me in the most pressure-free environment possible, I did not think to ask everything.
In some ways, selecting a family is just as, if not more challenging than choosing adoption in the first place.
With so many prospective single parents and couples to choose from, it’s hard to know where to start. Or where you’ll end up.
At first glance, all of the hopeful parents you’ll come across will seem so appealing. What’s to say you’ll find the right ones? Or that the ones you choose will follow through on their promises and won’t close down the adoption?
The truth is, you won’t know.
That’s why it’s important to take as much time as you need to do your research, gather as much information as you can, and listen to your gut.