This is a question being asked by so many hopeful adoptive parents and adoptive parents right now with all of the controversy surrounding Paul Petersen and others involved in seemingly unscrupulous adoption practices.
Paul Petersen is an attorney in Arizona who allegedly engaged in unethical and illegal activity placing Marshallese babies for adoption with American families.
He is accused of breaking numerous laws including human trafficking. He has been arrested along with several other people.
I feel that now that National Adoption Month is here, this would be a good time to have a discussion about what constitutes a legal and ethical adoption. Continue reading →
This guest post is by Amanda Jane Avis, an adoptive mother.
When I began my open adoption journey, I had very little know-how. I truly had no clue as to what the appropriate steps were, the timeline necessary to plan for adoption, or any research about even how to parent under my belt.
You could definitely say I was flying blind! What I did have, however was an iron clad faith and intention that I was, without a doubt, becoming a mommy via adoption. This knowing never wavered or altered.
This guest post is by Angela Boucher, an adoptive mother.
For several years now each November I am honoured to write for National Adoption Month. As I reflected on something to write this year four words about my adoption journey came to mind: Promise, Hope, Wonder and Love. Continue reading →
Kerstin Lindquist is an adoptive mother and author.
There is this episode of “Friends” when Chandler and Monica are at another couple’s house getting advice about adoption. Chandler ends up accidently telling the couple’s kid that he is adopted, and hysterical fallout ensues.
Years ago, when that episode was just getting to re-runs that scenario didn’t seem so far-fetched. Now almost two decades later, the thought of a twelve-year-old not knowing he is adopted seems ridiculous.
The sad truth is it’s not. In a time when we share more than ever, when we reveal abuse and discrimination and paint the internet red with me too and #truth, there are those in our adoption community that are still keeping their stories a secret.
This guest post is by Michelle Thorne, a birthmother and author.
Adoption awareness is such an important and daunting task. When my daughter began school in China, she developed a friendship with our neighbor’s son, who was also in her class. One day, he came to me to tattle on her.
“Cadence is lying!” It was in a sing-song voice that let me know this was not his first time tattling.
“She is? What about?” I asked him.
“She said she has an older brother.”
I leaned down to get on his level; this was not my first time defending myself. “She does.” Continue reading →
This guest post is by Deanna Kahler, an adoptive mother and author.
Do you believe in fate or destiny? Have you ever felt led to a certain path? Many adoptive parents will tell you they believe their child was meant to be with them, that they were guided to adoption — often years before they realized it.
I’m convinced this was the case with me. Here’s why.
My family and I are planning to move, so naturally I’ve been cleaning out drawers and closets. The other day, I found a story I had written when I was in 8th grade, titled “The Power of Love.” Curious, I decided to read it.
In the story, I described a sad, lonely girl whose parents had abandoned her. She lived on her own in the woods, feeling unloved and unwanted.