How I Made the Difficult Decision to Place My Baby for Adoption

This guest post is by Hope O Baker, a birthmother. 

At twenty-one years old, I placed my son for adoption. I opted for the open route, and I met (and even lived with) my son’s adoptive mother before he was born. I knew it was the right decision for my son’s life at the time, even if it didn’t feel best for mine. I did it for him.

As mothers, that’s what we do, right? We make the best decisions we can for our children, even if those decisions break us. And let me tell you, I was broken. It was the hardest decision that I’ve ever had to make in my life, but ultimately, I did what I had to do.

Sometimes it’s not always easy to know what the best option is, though. Maybe it’s to be a birthmother, or maybe it’s to keep the baby and raise the child on your own. Maybe it’s to have an abortion. 

A person’s choices are their own, and depending on the circumstances, they can all be valid. After working through my options, though, I knew that adoption was the right route for me, no matter how difficult. Here are some of the factors that helped me make that choice. Continue reading