This guest blog is by Victoria Hickok, an adoptive mother.
After four years of unsuccessful attempts at getting pregnant, my husband and I went through fertility treatments for a year.
But shortly after the anniversary of our first fertility treatment Paul and I put our family plans on hold and decided to focus on buying a house in our small town in Georgia instead.
We figured that, unlike starting a family, finding a house was something we could control.
So we decided to wait until we were settled in our new home and then expand our family through adoption.
This guest post is by Maxine Chalker, founder of Adoptions From The Heart and an adoptee.
Women who decide to make an adoption plan have taken a tremendous and courageous step toward improving their own lives and the lives of their children.
No one should understand this truth more than prospective adoptive parents, who will be given an enormous gift solely through the generosity and bravery of willing birth parents.
But taking a monumental step in one’s own life, to saying nothing of the life of one’s child, can be lonely. People don’t always understand, or accept, the choices that expectant parents make when they choose open adoption.
Creating an placement plan for your baby isn’t something anyone forgets. It stays with you. In many cases, it hurts —deeply.
This guest post is by Mallory Rivas, an adoptive mother.
Last February, we were given the surprise of our lives, when our son was literally dropped into our laps at 3 days old.
From the time we found out about him to the time we brought him home was a mere 6 hours.
That day, February 22nd, 2016 was absolutely the best day of my life. The day our family was completed.
It’s been 14 months and life sure has changed. We have gained a lot of friends, lost a lot of family, but through it all we have always had each other.
This guest post is by Terri Rimmer, a birthmother and author.
April 17th was the anniversary of my birth daughter McKenna’s adoption finalization in 2001.
I remember Jan. 2, 2000 when I found out I was pregnant and I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that I could not raise my daughter but that I would have to place her for adoption.
It would be the hardest thing I would ever do – or have done since.
Still, I prayed about it for two weeks even after talking it over with Jon, the birth father, and being in agreement with him.
At first we were going to choose my sister to raise our child but her partner didn’t want the birth mother to know the identity of her mother so I wasn’t going to do that. Continue reading
This guest post is by Andrea, a birthmother.
Birthmother’s Day isn’t a typical holiday for most people. It isn’t filled with cards, gift, or flowers.
In fact I’ll be spending the day working with my wonderful coworkers. It will be my second Birthmother’s Day since I’ve gained the title.
It may not be a Hallmark holiday for most, but it’s still a very important day for me.
This guest post is by Haris, a hopeful adoptive parent.
My husband and I lived through an adoption nightmare. The absolute worst case scenario.
I am writing this post to help us in our grieving process and to offer lessons that may help others who are hoping to adopt a baby through open adoption.
Meeting expectant parents considering adoption is nerve-wracking, especially when you’re doing it for the first time.
In fact, it may be the most stressful part of the entire networking process–and given how challenging adopting a baby through open adoption can be, that’s saying a lot!
After everything you’ve gone through to get to this stage —the mountains of red tape, the endless meetings with your social worker, the hours you’ve spent creating your profile and getting it out there— the last thing you want to do is to throw it all away by making a bad first impression with the woman or couple who could be the parents of your future child.
But let’s face it, it won’t be easy. No first meeting is. And when the stakes are this high, it’s hard not to feel anxious.
Don’t be. Just remember, the expectant parents will be just as nervous as you are. And more importantly, they didn’t agree to meet with you because they had nothing else to do.
This guest post is by Sophie Yang, an infertility specialist.
The stages of grief and acceptance people go through while undergoing infertility treatment can help you move to adoption with an open heart and mind if the infertility treatment doesn’t work.
The time spent working through the stages of infertility helps you decide where your priorities are.
If being a parent is the most important thing to you then if your fertility journey ends without a baby you’ve worked through most of your feeling about having a biological child and are ready to start your adoption journey with an open heart. Continue reading
This guest post is by Amanda Dodson, a birthmother
On July 2nd, 2016 I found out I was pregnant. I was by myself in a Walgreens bathroom.
I called my best friend at the time and she told me everything would be okay and she’s there for me.
I was terrified to tell my parents because they had said if I got pregnant I couldn’t live there anymore.
I told my sister on July 4th and she wasn’t as mad as I thought she’d be. She just told me I needed to figure out what I’m going to do.
Two weeks later I told my mom and my dad two weeks after that. They both were disappointed.
When I told the father, he said he wanted nothing to do with me or the baby ever. His exact words were “I will never love it or meet it.”
How could someone you once thought could be “the One” say those words to you? It hurt so bad. Continue reading