What Birthmother’s Day Means To Me As A Birthmother

This guest post is by Andrea, a birthmother.

Birthmother’s Day isn’t a typical holiday for most people. It isn’t filled with cards, gift, or flowers.

In fact I’ll be spending the day working with my wonderful coworkers. It will be my second Birthmother’s Day since I’ve gained the title.

It may not be a Hallmark holiday for most, but it’s still a very important day for me.

Life is so busy with my day to day life that I don’t always get a chance to really think about what it means to be a birthmom.

Sure, I have visits with my birthdaughter and I receive pictures. We have a very open relationship.

But I don’t always take the time to really think about what it means to be a birthmom.

Of course it took every bit of sacrifice and selflessness. But it also took so much faith and love.

Being a birthmom means a lifetime of heartbreak and tears, especially on birthdays and holidays.

But it also means feeling an overwhelming peace when I see the relationship my daughter has with her brother.

It’s the happiness in knowing that she has the best life.

She, as well as I, never have to wonder or have any questions about each other.

Birthmother’s Day means I will take a moment out of my day to really think about what it means to be a birthmom and not only grieve but celebrate my role in my birth daughters life.

I gave her a family, but she gave me so much more.

Andrea is a hairstylist, student (majoring in criminal justice) and pug mama. Visit her birthmom/lifestyle blog here.

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