Waiting To Adopt? The Biggest Lesson I Learned After Two Adoptions

This guest post is by Lauren Serio, an adoptive mom.

We’ve all heard the quote about enjoying the journey, not just the destination.  It’s so easy, at least for me, to become so focused on the end goal that I don’t take a minute to look up and enjoy where I’m at NOW. 

I find this to be especially true in the adoption journey.  We are always trying to get to the next phase, the next door, the match, the placement or the finalization. But there is a lot of time in between those things. There is a whole lot of waiting. 

Really, if you think about it,  the adoption journey could easily be compared to one big giant house. In this journey,  we spend most of our time in the hallway.

We spend so much  time trying to get one door to open or trying desperately to keep another door closed. Even though we spend so much time in this  hallway–in this wait–it’s very rarely talked about in a positive light.  Read More

I Worried My Daughter’s Adoptive Parents Would Shut Me Out After Her Adoption. Here’s What Really Happened

This guest post is by Mercy, a birthmother.

Five and half years ago, we placed a very special little girl up for adoption to an amazing couple in the hopes of growing our family through open adoption.

Little did we know that our lives would change in such an amazing way.

August 19, 2013 we welcomed a very special bundle of joy into the world.  Harper was born and we were all overjoyed and had mixed emotions on the following events.

Looking back, the emotions and uncertainty was high.  I remember signing the paperwork for the adoption and struggling my hardest to stay strong.  Read More

3 Common Problems In Open Adoption Relationships–And How To Handle Them

This guest post is by Karie Boyd, an adoption attorney.

Potential adoptive parents have lots of things to consider, one of which is to decide on open or closed adoption.

In some cases, birth parents wish to learn about their biological child through things like updates, photos, and even occasional visits.

While the biological parents completely relinquish their parental rights prior to the finalization of adoption, they may still have some contact with the child after, which inevitably leads to some issues.

What are some of the most common issues with open adoptions, and how can parents navigate them? Read More

I’m Pregnant And Considering Adoption. What Do I Need To Tell The Baby’s Father?

This guest post is by Andrea Cerny.

If you are considering adoption yet the birth father of the baby is not aware of the situation, you first need to make sure he is informed.

Adoption is a decision that both parents need to have a say in and it is not something that the mother can decide on single-handedly.

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