What Adopting Two Children Has Taught Me About Race And Racism

This guest post is by Paige Knipfer, an adoptive mother and adoption consultant.

For 29 years, I lived in a blissfully comfortable color-blind bubble of ignorance and denial. I knew racism existed in this country but never around me. Not in my family or my friends. Not in my community. 

I was wrong on so many levels.

When we adopted our daughter the first question I was asked by some family members was “What color or race is she?” 

I was devastated. I wondered why it mattered. I knew and worried that my child wouldn’t feel a part of the family.

Whenever I talked about my daughter or mentioned she was adopted I would show a photo. Most people were shocked to find that she is white.

When society hears the word “adoption,” they think of a child from another country who is stereotypically black. Even now if we mention she is adopted some people seem shocked.

Recently, we adopted again—a son. We know he isn’t white, but we’re not sure yet what his racial identity is because some of his birth history is still in question.

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How Hopeful Adoptive Families Can Improve The Adoption Process

This guest post is by Paige Knipfer, an adoptive mother and adoption consultant.

I’ve been extremely passionate about adoption since we adopted our daughter years ago. I started to write articles and went through political training to advocate for improvements.

I felt I wasn’t making a dent or doing enough. If you ask anyone what I would do if I won the lottery they would tell you it would be to open a women’s center that provides correct information on ALL options, an adoption agency that provides REAL UNBIASED legal/counselling/post care with low cost fees, and a foundation to help those in financial need to parent or to adopt.

Once again I’m writing an article to help those waiting to adopt push for a better process. Read More

Feeling Pregnant After Adopting? You’re Not Alone

This guest post is by Paige Knipfer, an adoptive mother.

We recently adopted our son in January. We also have a daughter we adopted a couple of years ago. We have no biological children and we are unable to conceive ourselves.

However, a couple weeks after we arrived home with our son I started to feel like I was pregnant.

I felt crazy. There was NO possible way I could be pregnant but for the first time in my life my boobs were incredibly sore. My nipples looked different. I was craving pickle, ham, and cream cheese roll ups.

I was cramping A LOT.

I’ll stop with the details but as you can imagine I was googling symptom after symptom which kept coming back saying I was pregnant. I tried googling adoptive mom pregnancy symptoms and nothing came up.

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Waiting To Adopt? The Biggest Lesson I Learned After Two Adoptions

This guest post is by Lauren Serio, an adoptive mom.

We’ve all heard the quote about enjoying the journey, not just the destination.  It’s so easy, at least for me, to become so focused on the end goal that I don’t take a minute to look up and enjoy where I’m at NOW. 

I find this to be especially true in the adoption journey.  We are always trying to get to the next phase, the next door, the match, the placement or the finalization. But there is a lot of time in between those things. There is a whole lot of waiting. 

Really, if you think about it,  the adoption journey could easily be compared to one big giant house. In this journey,  we spend most of our time in the hallway.

We spend so much  time trying to get one door to open or trying desperately to keep another door closed. Even though we spend so much time in this  hallway–in this wait–it’s very rarely talked about in a positive light.  Read More