Meeting expectant parents considering adoption is nerve-wracking, especially when you’re doing it for the first time.
In fact, it may be the most stressful part of the entire networking process–and given how challenging adopting a baby through open adoption can be, that’s saying a lot!
After everything you’ve gone through to get to this stage —the mountains of red tape, the endless meetings with your social worker, the hours you’ve spent creating your profile and getting it out there— the last thing you want to do is to throw it all away by making a bad first impression with the woman or couple who could be the parents of your future child.
But let’s face it, it won’t be easy. No first meeting is. And when the stakes are this high, it’s hard not to feel anxious.
Don’t be. Just remember, the expectant parents will be just as nervous as you are. And more importantly, they didn’t agree to meet with you because they had nothing else to do.
This guest post is by Sophie Yang, an infertility specialist.
The stages of grief and acceptance people go through while undergoing infertility treatment can help you move to adoption with an open heart and mind if the infertility treatment doesn’t work.
The time spent working through the stages of infertility helps you decide where your priorities are.
If being a parent is the most important thing to you then if your fertility journey ends without a baby you’ve worked through most of your feeling about having a biological child and are ready to start your adoption journey with an open heart. Read More
This guest post is by Amanda Dodson, a birthmother
On July 2nd, 2016 I found out I was pregnant. I was by myself in a Walgreens bathroom.
I called my best friend at the time and she told me everything would be okay and she’s there for me.
I was terrified to tell my parents because they had said if I got pregnant I couldn’t live there anymore.
I told my sister on July 4th and she wasn’t as mad as I thought she’d be. She just told me I needed to figure out what I’m going to do.
Two weeks later I told my mom and my dad two weeks after that. They both were disappointed.
When I told the father, he said he wanted nothing to do with me or the baby ever. His exact words were “I will never love it or meet it.”
How could someone you once thought could be “the One” say those words to you? It hurt so bad. Read More
This guest post is by Jessica Lambert-Villa, a birthmother.
I was 19 years old and had no direction in my life besides going up another year in age.
I worked at a local coffee shop that served everyone from wandering vagabonds to pageant queens .
I admired them all. They all seemed to have a purpose or passion that drove them to get out of bed everyday while I contemplated more than enough reasons to stay in bed.
I never made my own footsteps, only followed down the trudged path.
That path lead me to a dark valley that I never thought I could escape from. But I did.
My journey out of that dark valley started on the morning I found out I was pregnant.
I cried. I hyperventilated. I panicked. I was flooded with thoughts and drowned in fears.
“I have to get an abortion,” I told myself. “I can’t do this. How could I do this? Maybe I won’t tell, no one will know. One quick painless procedure right? That’s what I will do, its a perfect plan.”
The only problem was I didn’t want an abortion.
But I also didn’t want to be “just another pregnant teenager”. Read More