“How do I find a birthmother?” is one of the most common questions we get asked by waiting parents.
The truth is, there is no playbook when it comes to finding a match with an expectant mother considering adoption.
It can happen any time just about any where. Even thousands of feet up in the air.
Just ask Temple Phipps. She was flying from Atlanta to Raleigh when she got into a conversation with the woman seating next to her.
It turns out the woman, Samantha Snipes, was 8 months pregnant and had just left an abusive boyfriend.
Realizing she was unable to support a child, Samantha was considering adoption for her baby.
This guest post is by Pamela, a single adoptive mother.
Adoption? As a single? Why not? I knew I needed to be a mom. I knew I was getting older. I knew I would always regret it if I didn’t go for it. So I did.
About 9 years ago I began researching adoption. There were so many choices. So many different options. Foster adopt? International? Domestic agency? Domestic Independent? Which road do I choose?
Initially I chose foster adoption. It had worked for thousands of families. Thousands of single men and women. Thousands of nontraditional families. And it is virtually free.
Plus, there are tens of thousands of children in need of loving families. I signed up for the initial meeting. I signed up for MAPP classes. I completed my home study and was certified. And then I waited. And I waited and I waited some more.
This guest post is by Kathy Rau, an adoptive mother.
My youngest son discovered this summer that he had a love for running. My husband, a runner, was very pleased because our other boys had pursued judo and wrestling.
“J”, my youngest, joined a running group this past spring and three months later he competed in the AAU Junior Olympics for Track and Field.
One evening my husband asked me if I thought we should invite “J’s” birth mom to one of his events. My immediate answer was no.
I had a quick flash of anxiety and stress which quickly switched to mom guilt. Why was I so adamant about excluding her in the celebrations of his accomplishments? I needed time to process my feelings.
This guest post is by Gina Crotts, a birthmother.
I started this blog post with your typical list of “things to know if you are considering adoption for your baby.” When in all reality, that list will not prepare you to place your baby for adoption.
I can give you a rundown of answers that you will find in every other article that you Google, and though these lists are helpful I prefer to stick to what is real and honest.
A transparent list of what you need to know if you are considering adoption for your baby. Read More