Ashley Mitchell is a birthmother and the president of Lifetime Healing, LLC.
Throughout this past decade I have seen a common thread throughout the birth mother communities: a lack of support after relinquishment.
The mission of Lifetime Healing is to make sure that any woman that chooses to place her child for adoption will have free lifetime support, no matter where she lives.
We do not believe that post-placement care should be a luxury, it should be the standard.
I talk all the time about the 3 R’s of adoption: Rights, Roles and Responsibility. I want to share with you some thoughts on the first R – Rights of the mother.
This guest post is by Alice, a birthmother.
I was Miss Squeaky Clean back in high school. I didn’t even kiss a boy till I was 18. But nine years later I had my first real experience and Wowzers, just like that I got pregnant.
Let me tell you that it is sucky to be in that boat. I know because I was there.
Everyone says that placing your baby for adoption is really honorable. The question is, is it the right thing to do? That’s something you need to decide for yourself because it’s a rough road ahead.
In my case, I knew I had to place my baby. I had found two imperfectly lovely parents and I wanted them for my baby. I am now extremely happy that I ever got to go through this.
Today I am married to my soulmate and have two beautiful babies who I stay home with.
Placing my baby for adoption was hard but I have never wished that I would have single parented. There were five things that got me through that tough, sacred first year. Read More
This guest post is by Chemene, an adoptive mother and adoption support group leader.
When I was in my 20’s I wished for a time machine to go back and change the things I did in high school.
You know those really important things: Break up with my boyfriend sooner; study for a test days NOT hours before while in homeroom; get better clothes!
In my 30’s I wished I could go back to my childhood and experience that feeling of no responsibility; no bills; no taxes; maybe relive even my first childhood kiss.
But recently I asked myself would I go back now to make changes? My answer would be a little different. It wouldn’t be 100% yes, it would be more like 50/50. Read More
This guest post is by Maxine Chalker, founder of Adoptions From The Heart and an adoptee.
Thousands of adoptive parents who opt for traditional, or “closed,” adoptions have faced the same challenge.
Your child grows, enters school and soon begins to ask tough questions. Questions that center around their biological parents.
The real problem, of course, isn’t that you don’t want to answer these questions, but that you’re probably just as ignorant of your child’s birth parents as they are.
So instead of responding to the child’s concerns, adoptive parents can only answer with the unsatisfying refrain of “I don’t know.”
Most adopted children have a basic desire to explore their roots. We all yearn for history, a narrative that can help explain who we are and where we may be going.
The vast majority of children are better-served by being provided with concrete answers. Read More