1. What can America Adopts! do for me?
America Adopts! is an online service that helps hopeful adoptive parents connect directly with prospective birthparents. We offer adoption profile writing and networking services to help you find a match easier and faster, as well as information and resources to help you build a strong and lasting relationship with prospective birth families.
2. What’s the difference between America Adopts! and an adoption agency?
An adoption agency is a state-licensed organization that facilitates adoptions and offers a variety of services, ranging from home studies to legal work. Some offer parent profile services, but not all. America Adopts! builds on their work and specializes in online profile and networking services.
3. Are you a facilitator?
No. Facilitators act as a go-between expectant parents and adoptive parents. As a web-based service, we do not get directly involved in the matching process. We let you control all of the communication and interaction with expectant parents.
4. What’s the advantage of using America Adopts!
America Adopts! is designed to give you more control of the networking process and to help you make your adoption profile the best it can be so that you can increase your chances of finding a match.
Most of the decision-making surrounding a placement is done by prospective birthmothers. Birth fathers often play a secondary role or no role at all because they’re no longer in the picture or their identity is unknown.
7. What if the father of the baby is opposed to adoption?
Birthfather rights vary from situation to situation and from state to state. Depending on the circumstances, an adoption attorney can give you a more detailed and specific answer. Still, it’s important to keep the father of the baby in the loop about any adoption plan as much as possible.
8. What if the prospective birthmother doesn’t know who the father is?
In order to avoid troubles down the road, it’s important that the prospective birthmother make every effort to track down the father of her child and make him aware of her adoption plan. Again, an adoption attorney can give you more detailed information.
9. What if the prospective mother is no longer with the baby’s father?
As the prospective birthfather, he may still have rights. Best to check with an adoption attorney before you jump into any situation.
10. What if we’re contacted by a prospective birth mother from another state?
Interstate adoptions are possible but tend to be more complicated. In addition to the laws in your state, you’ll have to abide by those in the prospective birth mother’s. Once again, your adoption attorney can offer you further assistance.
11. What are prospective birth parents looking for in adoptive parents?
Each case is different. Generally, though, birth parents are looking for a family that they can relate to and that will give their baby a better future than the one they can offer.
12. How do we know the prospective birthmother won’t change her mind?
Prospective birth parents have the right to change their mind any time leading up to the placement. Although there’s nothing you can to stop an expectant parent from having a change of heart, one way to protect yourself is to make sure the prospective birthparents get all the counseling they need to make an informed decision.
13. How do we know the prospective birthmother is not abusing drugs or alcohol?
Her medical and social history may provide some clues. Or you can have your adoption professional speak to her adoption professional to find out more.
14. What if a prospective birthmother asks us for money?
State laws prohibit money from exchanging hands, so giving an expectant parent money could put your adoption in jeopardy. Depending on where you live, some living and medical expenses can be covered by you. Speak to your adoption worker for more details.
15. What if we’re contacted by more than one prospective birth mother?
To be fair to the to prospective birthmother and to avoid complications for yourself, it’s best not to pursue more than one situation at a time.
16. What happens if we’re contacted by an expectant mother who’s early in her pregnancy?
That’s up to you. On the one hand, it could give you time to build a strong relationship with her. On the other hand, it could put you at risk if the expectant mother hasn’t had enough time to carefully think through her decision and changes her mind before the placement.
17. What should we do if we’re invited to be at the birth?
If you receive a direct invitation from the expectant birth mother, it will be hard not to accept. However, if there are circumstances where you think it’s not a good idea for you to be there — for instance, because the expectant parents appear to be wavering in their decision — you may need to decline. Your adoption worker can help you further.
18. When does the baby usually come home?
In open adoption, placements usually take place shortly after the birth of the child, directly from the hospital. This is something you’ll need to work out with the prospective birth parents as part of your adoption plan.
19. How much time does the expectant mother have to change her mind after the birth of the baby?
The laws vary from state to state. Consult your adoption agency or attorney for more information.
20. How do we know how much contact to have with the prospective birthmother after the birth?
That’s a personal decision that you’ll need to make in consultation with the birth parents and your adoption attorneys.
21. We’ve heard about birthmothers changing their minds and reclaiming their child. What are the chances that will happen to us?
Birthmothers can change their mind, but it usually happens before the birth of their child. Afterwards, it much more rare. And unless the birthmother can prove that the placement was made under duress or through coercion, she cannot reclaim her child.
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