There are many ways to find out if you and a prospective birth parent are a good match after she responds to your adoption parent profile.
Sometimes you’ll know it the first time you speak. You’ll get the sense that even though you’ve just met, it feels like you’ve know each other your entire life.
But in most cases, as in any new relationship, especially one that is born out of a crisis, it will take a while for things to settle down and figure out where you stand with her. One way to find out for sure is to ask questions.
How she answers them will not only give you a better sense of whether you’re compatible. It will help you decide whether your relationship is worth pursuing in the long-term or whether you’re just spinning your wheels.
Here are some questions you might want to consider during that initial conversation:
Here are some questions you may want to ask, but probably shouldn’t. Better to leave these to your adoption worker.
Asking a prospective birth mother the right questions early on will give you the answers and the confidence you need to move your relationship forward.
Plus, it will help you avoid bigger problems down the road. If, on the other hand, you don’t get the answers you need, you’ll need to ask yourself why and whether the adoption situation you’re involved in isn’t the right one for you.
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