Pregnant? Thinking About Adoption? 5 Reasons To Rethink Your Plan

creating-an-adoption-planEarlier this week I wrote about the timing of placing a baby for adoption —  whether there was a better time for a pregnant woman to start considering a plan and about the choices that other expectant mothers had made in creating a plan of their own.

I mentioned that placing a baby for adoption was a complicated process with no easy answers.

Each expecting mother had to make her own decision based on her own needs and wants as well as on her own unique set of circumstances. Continue reading

How Do You Know When You’re Ready To Place Your Baby For Adoption?

Heather 35 weeks pregnantThe other day someone asked me a question that I imagine a lot of expectant parents wonder about: How do you know when you’re ready to place your baby for adoption? Is there a sign or a voice that tells you that you’re ready to move forward with your plan? And if so, when does it happen — early in your pregnancy or later? Before the birth of your child or afterwards?

As an adoptive parent, I’ve never had to deal with that question directly so I can only guess at what the answer is. But from what I know from talking to parents who have placed their baby for adoption and professionals in the field, I wonder if anyone really knows the answer to that one. Continue reading

Adopting Into A Large Family: Benefits and Challenges

adopting-into-large-familyAdding a child to your family through open adoption is always a blessing, whether it’s your first child or your fourth.

Just ask Stephanie and Brian from our adopting parents page. They can’t wait to add another child to their New York family of five. As they write in their adoption profile, “We know that we are not the typical adoptive family, but that makes us even more special. Being part of a large family has so many wonderful benefits and your child will be able to experience them all.”

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The Open-Hearted Book About Open Adoption

open-hearted-way-to-open-adoption-bookIt’s hard to take issue with a book that calls itself The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption — harder still when that book lives up its billing in such an open and honest way that this one does.

The Open-Hearted Way To Open Adoption by Lori Holden with Crystal Hass is a big, generous, and yes, open-hearted, book — the guide that the open adoption community has been waiting for. Insightful and entertaining, it not only explains why you should do an open adoption, but shows you how to do it with grace and confidence. Continue reading

11 Simple Ways to Get Your Online Adoption Profile Noticed

This is what democracy looks like  ▋❤ ▋How was your Mother’s Day? Tough going? Don’t feel like talking about it? That’s OK. You’re not alone. Many women trying to adopt feel that way. Mother’s Day is one of those holidays that reminds you of what you don’t have and leaves you feeling down in the dumps.

But now that it’s come and gone, it’s time to re-group and and move your adoption plan forward — and more specifically, to find news ways to get your parent profile noticed. Continue reading

Creating An Adoption Plan For Your Baby Around Mother’s Day

adoption-plan-around-mothers-dayIf you’re putting together an adoption plan for your baby, you probably have a lot on your mind — figuring out how the process works, what kind of  adoptive parents you want to have, and perhaps even asking yourself whether you’re doing the right thing at all.

Placing your baby in a family of strangers is tough to do, no matter what time of the year you’re thinking about it. Thinking about it now, in the lead up to Mother’s Day, only complicates the issue. Continue reading

Why I Feel Lucky To Have Found My Baby Girl’s Adoptive Parents

This guest post is by Kari Wiessner, a birthmother.

kari2As a birthmother it’s always hard as Mother’s Day arrives. Yes, there is Birthmothers Day, but it’s not the same.

Eight years ago, on November 23, 2004, I became a mother. Six months prior I had picked out a family for this little girl to go home to. Two days prior to her arrival into this crazy world, the couple backed out on me saying they did not feel I would be involved in baby girl’s life. My life had shattered at 11:47 pm November 21,2004. Continue reading

How To Survive Mother’s Day When You’re Waiting To Adopt

IMG_3699T.S. Eliot was wrong. April isn’t the cruellest month. May is, at least if you’re waiting to adopt.

For weeks now, you’ve probably heard it: the endless drumbeat of Mother’s Day messages — in stores, on radio and TV, and here on the Net. And in the next few days it will only get louder.

For many people Sunday is a day of celebration. But if you’re a woman waiting to adopt it’s a day you’d just as soon forget — yet another reminder that you’re NOT a mom. Continue reading