To The Hopeful Adoptive Mother Who Is Losing Hope

This guest post is by Danielle Orenzow, an adoptive mother

Life is full of surprises.

After we bought our house and were financially stable, we announced to the world that we would start trying to grow our family.

It was such an exhilarating time. Never did we imagine that eight years would pass without even one positive pregnancy.

One day, as we discussed our upcoming IVF session at family dinner,  my mother-in-law reached over and said with excitement, “I know someone.”

Through a friend of a friend, she had heard about an expectant mother who was considering placing her baby for adoption.

Her name was Destiny and she was just 15 years old. She was due in 10 days. To think of myself as an instant mommy was surreal but boy, was I ready!

When I got to the hospital and met the baby for the first time, I felt like I had known him forever. Continue reading

Yes, She Is My Real Sister and We Are Her Real Family

This guest post is by Maya Menon.

The best day of my entire life was the day a six pound, five week old baby from Augusta, Georgia joined my family. On that day 16 years ago, my family was completed.

Since then, that little baby has been my best friend and my sister. My family is just as much, if not more, a family as those who are biologically related.

We made vows to always love one another and my parents promised to raise both of us the best they can.

However, people consistently ask if she’s my real sister, where are her real parents, and if she wants to be with her real family.

This is what I have to say to them:

Yes, she is my real sister. We fight religiously. She steals my clothes and locks me out of the bathroom. We have dance parties and watch TV. We get frozen yogurt and I drive her places. Continue reading

Birth Father Rights in Newborn Adoption: What You Need To Know

This guest post is by Dewey L. Crepeau, an adoption attorney and author.

If you’re thinking about adopting a newborn or an infant, you probably know that the birth mother will have to consent to the adoption in order for it to be legal and final.

In the adoption world, dealing with the birth mother’s rights is typically when the legal process starts. But what about the birth father?

It’s important to remember that just as the birth mother has rights, the birth father also has rights that must be considered.

Most licensed adoption agencies take the position that he should be involved in the adoption process, if at all possible. There is generally a legal obligation to attempt to contact the birth fathers about an adoption.

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10 Questions I Hate Being Asked As A Gay Adoptive Parent

This guest post is by Sean Michael O’Donnell , an adoptive father.

Most people come to parenthood the old fashioned way. Either they light a few candles and say, “Let’s make a baby” or they have one too many drinks and forget the condom.

I am one half of a gay couple which means no matter how hard we try or how many drinks we have we will never be able to make a baby, at least not in the conventional sense.

This does not make us unique; many people find themselves unable to have children the “traditional” way. For some people this means using a surrogate or choosing IVF.

For us it meant adoption. Continue reading

What Placing My Baby For Adoption Taught Me About Life And Love

This guest post is by Samantha, a birthmother.

Adoption is defined in the dictionary as “to take and rear (the child of other parents) as one’s own child, specifically by a formal legal act.”

This is extremely simplistic. What it fails to mention is the love that forms around adoption, the sacrifice it requires, and the community it creates.

Adoption is an act of sacrifice and love by both birth parents and adoptive parents.

When I was 20 years old I found myself staring down at my third positive pregnancy test.

I felt an overwhelming sense of disbelief, followed by an immense fear of what lay ahead of me. Continue reading