Considering Adoption For Your Baby? A Birthmother Counselor On What You Need To Know

“I am still in awe of the courage and strength of birthparents who make the choice to place their baby for adoption.”

When it comes to sharing her feelings about birthmothers and the tough decisions they make, Katie Chavira doesn’t hold anything back.

Katie was the Birthparent Intake Counselor and Supervisor for the Birthparent Intake department at the now-closed Independent Adoption Center.

Over the last 12 years she met with expectant mothers considering adoption to explain their rights and options, including open adoption.

According to her, here are some of the common fears and concerns that expectant mothers have as they go through the pre-placement process and about the key to creating a successful adoption plan. Continue reading

Planning A Baby Shower For Adoptive Parents: 3 Tips For Success

This guest post is by Paige Knipfer, an adoptive mother.  

After we brought our baby daughter home, I’ll be honest: We didn’t know what we were doing.

Like a lot of new adoptive parents, we assumed we couldn’t have a baby shower. And we were reluctant to ask for one because we felt we didn’t deserve it.

But that didn’t seem right to me. So eventually we had one.

What I learned from that experience is that you need to ignore what the books and people have to say and just do what you think is right.

Just like any new parent, adoptive parents deserve to celebrate the newest member of the family and a baby shower is an awesome way to do it.

Here are three tips to help make your adoption baby shower a success. Continue reading

Surprise! Watch These Priceless Reactions After Couple Adopts Baby Through Online Match

If a picture is worth a thousand words, this video is priceless.

Lacy and Banks Farris created it after they adopted a baby through an online match.

Following years of infertility, miscarriage and a failed placement, they wanted to celebrate their open adoption news in a special way.

So with Lacy holding their newborn and Banks armed with a camera, they filmed the heartbreaking moment when they made a surprise visit to their family and friends to introduce their little girl for the first time. Continue reading

How I Found The Perfect Parents To Adopt My Baby

This guest post is by Megan, a birthmother. 

I found out I was pregnant with my fourth child at one of the hardest points in my life. I was struggling to keep a roof over my children’s head, let alone clothes on their back and food in their stomach.

On top of that, my second son was diagnosed with severe autism and was so severely developmentally delayed that I hardly had time for my two other children, not to mention a newborn.

I was so lost, confused and overwhelmed. I had my IUD in—how could I have gotten pregnant again? I knew I wasn’t ready or capable of handling another child, but abortion wasn’t an option.

So I laid my options out in front of me and talked to my fiancé, who is the father to all my children, and told him what we were going to do.

Because he is half native American, I was scared to tell anyone we were even considering adoption because in his culture adoption was considered a crime.

But I knew I couldn’t possibly raise another child. So I went ahead and contacted an adoption agency and set up a meeting to see what it would be like to place my baby. Continue reading

The Day I Found Adoptive Parents For My Twins

This guest post is by Sarah, a birthmother. 

It all started in February 2014. I had made the hardest decision of my entire life: To place the twin girls I was carrying into another woman’s arms to call her mom.

God had a huge part in this decision and the whole experience.

I went to a lawyer to speak with her about my situation and adoption plan. She already met with a couple.

The couple found her through some friends of theirs, but they only were hoping for one child.

I had already spoke with another couple I was considering so I told her to wait before notifying the other couple.

Well, I finally made a decision to meet the other couple and on February 20 I get a call from the lawyer, “the couple can meet you tomorrow in the morning can you make it?”

I didn’t know what to think. It was all so fast. I just met with the her a week before. But, of course, I said yes.

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How We Adopted A Baby In 6 Hours Flat

This guest post is by Mallory Rivas, an adoptive mother. 

Everyone wants to adopt quickly. No one likes to wait.

Sometimes, if you’re lucky, you can find a birthmother match pretty fast and bring home a baby in a few months or weeks.

Us, we got super lucky. We adopted our baby in mere hours. Six, to be precise.

And the most incredible thing is, we weren’t even planning on adopting. A situation just fell into our lap and we ran with it.

It was a crazy ride, but crazy in an awesome way. Continue reading

10 Things This Birthmom Wants You To Know

This guest post is by Ashley Mitchell, a birthmother and owner of Big Tough Girl.™

I placed a son for adoption 10 years ago.  It truly has been a decade of discovery. 

As I sit here and reflect over everything I have learned, everything I have overcome and everything that I have survived I am constantly amazed at how much my life has changed since the day I walked out of the hospital not just as a mother but as a birth mother. 

When that identity shifted my entire world shifted and it has been a choice that I replay over and over, and one that I continue continue to make over and over for the rest of my life. 

As I prepare my heart for the upcoming mommy season, I discovered 10 things that I have learned and that you should know about me as a birth mother. Continue reading

To The People Who Wonder If Adoptive Moms Are “Real” Moms

This guest post is by Paige Knipfer, an adoptive mother.  

Most adoptive moms cringe at the question “Who is the ‘real’ mom?” The reason: We are. We are the real mom.

I apologize if I sound defensive but I take it personally when someone insinuates that my main job title isn’t “real.”

Even though I didn’t carry my daughter inside me for 9 months or give birth, I am real.

I’m the one responsible for my child. Along with my husband, I’m the one who’s raising, feeding, disciplining, and teaching her.

I’m as real as it gets. Continue reading