5 Things I Wish I’d Known Before I Placed My Son For Adoption

This guest post is by Emily Brunett, a birthmother.

No matter how much you prepare, sometimes you just can’t find all the answers. This was true for me when I chose adoption.

My son Dominic was placed at birth about 15 months ago in an open adoption. When I was pregnant and faced with the adoption decision, I scoured the Internet looking for answers.

Research quickly changed my faint idea of adoption to a more concrete understanding of the options, process and laws.

I exchanged emails and phone calls with adoption professionals from various agencies in three different states.

One of the reasons I chose the agency that eventually handled my adoption was because my social worker/pregnancy counselor was so helpful, patient and forthcoming.

But even though I asked a thousand questions and had a social worker and an agency who bent over backwards to guide me in the most pressure-free environment possible, I did not think to ask everything.

Nor could I have gotten an answer to all my questions, since so many of the unknowns in adoption revolve around the inability to predict the future.

Here are five things I’ve learned since placement that I wish I had been better prepared for. Continue reading

7 Warning Signs The Family Looking To Adopt Your Baby Isn’t A Good Fit

Is there anything more difficult than creating an adoption plan for your baby?

How about finding the right adoptive parents?

In some ways, selecting a family is just as, if not more challenging than choosing adoption in the first place.

With so many prospective single parents and couples to choose from, it’s hard to know where to start. Or where you’ll end up.

At first glance, all of the hopeful parents you’ll come across will seem so appealing. What’s to say you’ll find the right ones? Or that the ones you choose will follow through on their promises and won’t close down the adoption?

The truth is, you won’t know.

That’s why it’s important to take as much time as you need to do your research, gather as much information as you can, and listen to your gut.

But if you want to be extra sure the family you choose is a good fit for you, here are 7 warning signs to watch for. Continue reading

Give Up A Baby For Adoption vs. Place A Baby For Adoption: What’s The Difference And Why It Matters

Is there a difference between saying “give up a baby for adoption” and “place a baby for adoption”?

And if there is, why does it matter, and how does it change things if you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy and considering adoption?

Actually, It matters a lot. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Words matter. The language we use to describe a birthmother’s decision says a lot about how we think about her.

And it also influences the way that her child thinks about his adoption—and himself. Continue reading

When To Consider Adoption As An Expectant Mom

This guest post is by Maxine Chalker, an adoption professional and adoptee.

If you’re pregnant and thinking of putting your child up for adoption, then you’ve got a lot of factors to consider.

The percentage of unintended pregnancies in the U.S. stood at 45 percent in the years between 2009 and 2013.

When should you consider adoption as an expectant mother?

As a mother, you have rights and being in a position of facing an unplanned pregnancy can be tremendously stressful.

Here are some instances where you may want to consider adoption as an expectant mom. Continue reading