This guest post is by Marvin and Vaughn, hopeful adoptive parents.
We are waiting…and waiting…and still waiting.
When we started the adoption process almost two years ago, several people told us the hardest part is the waiting!
And, boy, were they right!
You hear all sorts of coping mechanisms from friends or folk who have already adopted: “Go on vacation.” “Pick up a hobby.” “Spend more time with friends and family!”
All great suggestions and things we’ve done to help fill our time.
What they don’t tell you is how much the waiting can chip away at your self-esteem.
When you’re up for an opportunity and you’re not picked, or you hear nothing for months, you inevitably go to this place: “Something must be wrong with me, or us, or our profile or…or…or…”
The uncertainties and second guessing can really get you down in the dumps.
Here are a few ways that I’ve learned to deal with those nagging doubts. Continue reading