How To Become An Adoption Advocate

This guest post is by Paige Knipfer, an adoptive mother.

I recently heard a quote by Kerstin Lindquist, “The system is broken but our family is whole.”

This couldn’t ring truer for me. As an adoptive mom, sometimes I feel defeated by the adoption process. So I came up with some ways that we can all make changes to it in order to improve the adopting experience for others. 

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A Birthmother On Why Adopting Parents Need To Be Honest With Their Children

This guest post is by Lynea, a birthmother.

I created Life After Placement because of my experience as a birth mother.

I have many of those experiences over the 26 years since placing but today I want to discuss the honesty that must take place as adoptive parents.

The one thing we should all expect is that many of our children will someday want to re-unite with the birth mother/father.

This is a normal desire. We all have a need to know where we came from.

Adopted children can be brought up by the greatest people in the world and will love you for that but they will also want to know their biological history.  

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This Is What Being An Adoptive Mother Feels Like

This guest post is by Mallory Rivas, an adoptive mother. 

Since becoming an adoptive mother in 2016, life has changed in so many ways. I became a part of this “club,” if you will, of other parents that have adopted their children.

We share stories of our journeys, our joys, trials and heartbreaks. It’s true when they tell you adopting a child is the hardest, most beautiful thing you will ever do in your life. It absolutely is.

And it isn’t your child that makes it hard, it’s the adults who have no filter and offer their opinions and advice to you. Unless you yourself have adopted a child, you will truly never know how we feel.

“Do I love him as much as my biological daughters?” Of course, how could I not?? “But he isn’t really yours, how could you love him as much??” But, he IS really mine. Continue reading

Everything I Know About Adoptive Parenting I Learned From My Baby

This guest post is by Amanda Jane Avis, a single adoptive mother.

I know your head is whirling in a million directions. Thoughts of cribs, car seats, diapers—do you choose organic, cloth, standard?

What education philosophies do we align with? How do we talk to our son or daughter about adoption? All these incredibly important topics in your brain right now, occupying so much real estate with so few solid answers!

Guess what? You won’t have the answers now or a month from now, or maybe even several days, weeks, months after you bring baby home.

And here’s the thing…it’s ok! Your baby, yes, that sweet, precious, prayed for, intended, envisioned bundle of amazingness has the answers.

Your baby is now your teacher. This seems insane at this moment, I know. Take it from me, as I am the poster child for Type A, uber organized, focused, prepared and researched people in all genres of my life.

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How We Celebrate Open Adoption With Our Children

This guest post is by Angie Milks, an adoptive mother. 

Today is a special day in our house so it’s fitting that I’m writing this blog post today. 

It is my daughter’s fifth “Milksaversary”, the anniversary of the court date finalizing her open adoption, and officially making her a Milks forever! 

We love celebrating this moment with our kids.  This morning at breakfast, we were looking at pictures and talking about what it means, and my daughter got up out of her chair and gave me a huge hug. 

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My Dream For the Daughter I Placed For Adoption

This guest post is by Amanda Miah, a birthmother and author.

They say in the third trimester babies begin to dream. Dreams filled with the sensation of movement and familiar voices.

My baby knew my voice. The voice of a young girl who found herself in a hard place, who faced a difficult decision.

My dream for my daughter was this: That she would have two loving parents who could provide her with a stable and healthy home life.

Two new voices would fill her dreams. And I suppose mine would be tucked away, somewhere in the back of her mind.

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Adoption Profile Videos: Good Is The Enemy of Great

This guest post is from Hal Kaufman, an adoptive parent and the Founder of My Adoption Advisor.

I stole “Good is the Enemy of Great” from James C. Collins, the author of Good to Great, a book about how few organizations – schools, governments, businesses, etc. – achieve greatness, principally because they’re good.

Adopting parents use an adoption video to share who they are with potential birth parents.

I have viewed a lot of adoption profile videos and some are definitely good. Few are great.

Why is making a great video important? What’s the different between a good adoption profile video and a great one? And even if you happen to make a great video, why isn’t that enough?

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Why We Need to Keep The Adoption Tax Credit

This guest post is by Maxine Chalker, founder of Adoptions From The Heart and an adoptee.

November is National Adoption Awareness Month, which means that advocacy groups across the country have stepped up their community outreach.

Organizations from the Dave Thomas Foundation to the US Children’s Bureau are working extra hard to celebrate the beautiful families built through adoption and get more people who may never have considered adopting to begin thinking about it.

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How To Build Your Independent Adoption Team

This guest post is by Brian Esser, an attorney and adoptive father.

Somewhere right this instant, an expectant woman is on her phone, Googling her way to the self-produced online profile of an adoptive parent or parents. 

An email is sent, a connection is felt, and a match could be in the works. 

It is modern, yes, but there is still that same “I just knew” person-to-person feeling there, the same moment of connection felt by an expectant woman leafing through profiles at an agency or on the agency’s web site.

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Giving Thanks For Adoption

This guest blog is by Gayle H. Swift, an adoptive mother, adoption coach and author. 

Here in the USA, November marks two important observances: Thanksgiving and National Adoption Month. I venture to say adoptive parents certainly feel deep gratitude for the privilege of being able to parent their children.

Joining these two observances feels appropriate. Becoming adoptive parents delivered a visceral joy that many of us thought impossible. Continue reading