This guest post is by Maxine Chalker, founder of Adoptions From The Heart and an adoptee.
Thousands of adoptive parents who opt for traditional, or “closed,” adoptions have faced the same challenge.
Your child grows, enters school and soon begins to ask tough questions. Questions that center around their biological parents.
The real problem, of course, isn’t that you don’t want to answer these questions, but that you’re probably just as ignorant of your child’s birth parents as they are.
So instead of responding to the child’s concerns, adoptive parents can only answer with the unsatisfying refrain of “I don’t know.”
Most adopted children have a basic desire to explore their roots. We all yearn for history, a narrative that can help explain who we are and where we may be going.
The vast majority of children are better-served by being provided with concrete answers. Continue reading