Opening Adoption Records Allows Adoptees To Know Who They Are

This guest post is by Faith Getz Rousso, an adoptee and adoption attorney.

November. Adoption Awareness. This is the time each year where “we” hear/read/see adoption related podcasts, articles and news stories.

Those in the adoption-world live adoption each day, 365 days of each year.  Who are the “we”? We are adoptees, we are adoptive parents, and we are biological parents and adoption professionals.

I wear two hats. I was adopted at 17 months old. I am an adoptee. I am an attorney who practices adoption law. I am an adoption professional.

The topic of adoptee rights, whether adult adoptees should have the ability to request and obtain a certified copy of their original long form birth certificate (“OBC”) without restrictions is a hot topic.  It is one that has been in the news all month. Continue reading

Finding My Birthmother

This guest post is by Jennifer Anglin, an adoptee and motivational speaker.

My husband and I had always joked about my origin of birth because of my dark skin.

When DNA kits went on sale, he suggested that for just for fun we should buy one to see where I came from. 

One day, when I was sitting at my desk at work, a text message came from my husband. He asked if I had thought about what I would do if the ancestry DNA revealed information about my biological family.

I immediately replied that if it happened it happened. I was ok with it because if it did, God must have thought I needed to know about it.

That’s when he told me that he had found my mother. Just like that– “I found your mom.” Continue reading

How To Make The Most of the Holidays with Your Child’s Birth Parents

This guest post is by Alana Redmond, a legal content writer.

An open adoption is a very special opportunity for a child to grow up in a network of love and support from both parents.

The holidays are an even more important time to spend with loved ones and share memories that will last a lifetime.

Every open adoption is different so it’s important to consider a few factors before jumping full-swing into the holiday season. 

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What Is Adoption Coercion?

This guest post is by Pamela, an adoptive mother. 

What constitutes adoption coercion?

In the light of recent events in Adoptionland, such as the arrest of Paul Petersen, an adoption attorney in Arizona who has been indicted on 29 counts of fraudulent schemes and three counts of conspiracy, theft, and forgery, we should talk about adoption coercion and what exactly that means. 

In the case of the 29 Marshallese women coerced by Petersen, coercion is an exchange of money for the placement of a child for adoption.  Coercion can be much more subtle than that.

I often hear hopeful adoptive families refer to a woman they have “matched” with as a “birth mom”.  I also see that term used on hundreds of adoption agency websites being used in reference to a woman who is pregnant and considering placing her baby for adoption.    Continue reading

Is Special Needs Adoption Right for You?

Alana Redmond is a writer. 

Are you looking at adopting a special needs child? Special needs adoptions can be rewarding, but they’re not for everyone. So how do you know if it’s right for you?

First, let’s define the terms. The term “special needs” refers to any child who would qualify for assistance due to a medical condition or another specific factor.

Special needs children can have particular educational requirements resulting from learning difficulties, physical and behavioral difficulties.

However, In the adoption world, the term “special needs” covers a much broader scope. Adopting a child with special needs is similar to adopting a healthy child except that it comes with a few more challenges as well as rewards.  Continue reading

Open Adoption Is Not as Scary as It Sounds. Kids Can Never Have Enough Love

This guest post is by AdoptiveBlackMom, an adoptive mother and blogger.

My daughter, Hope, and I became a family about six years ago. Weeks after the finalization of our adoption, a portion of Hope’s extended biological family found both of us on social media.

I was so early in my parenting journey that I had a hard time at first with their appearance in our lives. I knew that open adoption is a good thing, but I did not anticipate the relationship opening so quickly.

I had started looking for Hope’s family, and I had a few leads that I planned to pursue after we returned from our celebration trip to Disney World.

Instead I found myself responding to a host of messages sent to me and Hope from numerous family members asking for all kinds of information.

It was sometime before I could reconcile the shock of it all and really help Hope emotionally deal with the opening of our adoption. Continue reading

My Adopting Advice? If You Get A Chance, Take It!

This guest post is by Mallory Baker, an adoptive mother.

In 2016 we had what seemed to be the perfect family. We had been married for ten years, with two happy, healthy daughters. We had just bought our first family car, just the right size for the four of us.

The girls, Alayna, age 8 at the time, and her little sister Avery, 5, finally had their own rooms in our beautiful home we had recently purchased.

Life was perfect. Then on February 22, 2016 something special happened: We got a call asking us if we were interested in adopting a baby boy. Continue reading

Why I Chose Open Adoption For My Son

This guest post is by Tysie Stoyan, an adoptive mother.

Over three years ago I experienced one of the best moments in my life.: I received a message from a woman named Jasmine who was interested in placing her child with us. 

After meeting her and her family we all decided to move forward with our plan. It was truly one of the most exciting  days of my life–a dream come true!

Jasmine and I messaged back and forth throughout her pregnancy.   She was very uncertain about open vs. closed adoption practices. 

We thoroughly discussed both types of adoptions. She asked a lot of questions about why I believed in open adoptions and if it would be best to keep our adoption private. Continue reading

What Our Son Taught Us About Open Adoption

This guest post is by Tennille, an adoptive mother. 

Over this past year I have been given a different perspective on open adoption through the eyes of the our son, Mateus, who joined our family through open adoption five years ago.

First and foremost, I am so thankful for our open adoption. This is something I felt so strongly about with every ounce of my being. 

I wanted Mateus to grow up knowing his birth story, where he comes from, who he looks like, what traits he gets from whom and so on.

I also wanted him to grow up knowing the love that his birth family has for him and I never want him to feel like he was not wanted or to feel as though he were a mistake. Continue reading

Let’s End The Stigma Surrounding Birthmothers

This guest post is by Lynea, a birthmother and the founder of Life After Placement.

With November being Adoption Awareness Month I ask you to honor and show your love for birth mothers.

Adoption begins with birthmothers—it’s a choice that affects us for a lifetime.

I’ve found that most people are not aware of who a birth mother is.

There is a perception that the choice she made to place was for selfish reasons. Few people try to understand or educate themselves about the motivation behind it. 

I placed my daughter 28 years ago and have been reunited for 12. I founded Life-After-Placement to create awareness and become an advocate for birth mothers.

I work to educate the public and people who choose adoption about why those choices are made and hope to create respect for what they have done. Continue reading