Along the way we were asked again “Why?”: Why not just accept that you’re not supposed be parents? Why don’t you understand that children may not be a part of God’s plan for you and your husband?
Of all the birthmother myths, none stings more than the accusation that birthmothers “give up” their babies.
Nineteen years ago, birth mothers were not telling their stories. There was and is so much shame and resistance to speaking our side of the adoption story.
From word of mouth to posting your profile online, there are ways to find a baby to adopt without an agency.
Even after 11 years of supporting adoptive and foster families, I realized I still had a lot to learn.
It’s about gaining love. Coming together as one big family. For the sake of the child.
I remember signing the paperwork for the adoption and struggling my hardest to stay strong.
Thirteen years in, all I feel is pride and love. No jealousy. No what-ifs. Family.
Birthparents aren’t bad people just because they get pregnant and choose adoption.
Adoption begins with birthmothers—it’s a choice that affects us for a lifetime.