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  • How My Adoptive And Biological Dads Helped Me Understand Openness In Adoption

    This guest post is by Kim Wallis, a hopeful adoptive mother. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day. I think I was luckier than most daughters because I had two dads. I was adopted when I was 15 by my step-father — probably not an age that most think of when adoption comes to mind. He’d been co-parenting me since I was 7 when he married my mom. Our

  • Being Contacted By Prospective Birthmothers: What I’ve Learned

    This guest post is by Don, a hopeful adoptive father. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day. My wife and I started our adoption journey approximately a year ago.  During this time we’ve been contacted five times by prospective birth moms.  Unfortunately none of these contacts worked out for various reasons beyond our control.  I am not sure how typical this experience is for couples pursuing open adoption, but

  • Manifesting Destiny: Gay Fatherhood Through Open Adoption

    This guest post is by Casey Cavalier, a hopeful adoptive father. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day. I came out during The Reagan Years. I was twenty-years-old and parenthood was not at the forefront of my mind. This was not because I was young. It was because most gay men in those days did not see fatherhood or marriage as a possibility. Our community was fighting the AIDS

  • A Prospective Adoptive Dad: What Father’s Day Means To Me

    This guest post is by Ethan Curtis, a hopeful adoptive father. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day. On Father’s Day this year, my wife and I will celebrate like we do every year. We’ll both call our fathers and wish them a great day, then we’ll go out and barbecue with some close friends who have children. Father’s day tends to have special meaning for my wife and

  • Free: A Birthfather’s Story

    This post is by Shane Lynen, a birthfather who blogs at Northern Lights. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day. Open and honest.  That’s a phrase which has been used around our house a lot in the past 13 months.  We have used that phrase as the base for every discussion in that time.  We made a commitment to be open and honest with everyone in this

  • Adoption Isn’t Just About Mothers — Dads Are Expecting, Too!

    This post is by Josh, a hopeful adoptive father. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day. I’ve always had positive feelings toward adoption. For one reason or another, I just always assumed I would have biological kids. However, I can’t say I’ve ever had a drive to have a little one with my DNA. While reproduction is supposedly an innate drive, my interest in becoming a father

  • Why Our Adoption Was Meant To Be

    This guest post is by Scott Phelps, an adoptive father. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day. It was a Wednesday afternoon in Tucson, Arizona and my wife, Kala, was up in Prescott Valley taking our son’s birthmother “A” to a doctor’s appointment. My wife and I were very fortunate to have gotten to know “A” and develop a relationship with her. All day I had been

  • My Dream To Become An Adoptive Daddy

    This guest post is by Tim Elder, an adoptive father and founder of the Infant Adoption Guide. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day. This is the dream of thousands of men every year, and it was my dream too — to adopt a newborn and finally become a daddy. I have to admit that adoption wasn’t the way I thought my wife and I would grow our family

  • How We Created An Adoptive Family Of Two Fathers

    This guest post is by Steven G. Dubin, an adoptive father and adoption attorney. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day. When we think about adoption and Father’s Day, it brings a flood of memories.  Our own, and memories created by our clients, which we have been privileged to share. Our first two-dad family walked through our office doors well over a dozen years ago. They were

  • Birthmother’s Day, Mother’s Day and Adoption: What I Learned In May

    What does May mean to you? For many people, May is synonymous with Mother’s Day — a time to celebrate mothers and motherhood. But for members of the adoption constellation, Mother’s Day — and Birthmother’s Day — is a bittersweet occasion, filled with mixed emotions of love, longing and loss.