How I Made the Difficult Decision to Place My Baby for Adoption

This guest post is by Hope O Baker, a birthmother. 

At twenty-one years old, I placed my son for adoption. I opted for the open route, and I met (and even lived with) my son’s adoptive mother before he was born. I knew it was the right decision for my son’s life at the time, even if it didn’t feel best for mine. I did it for him.

As mothers, that’s what we do, right? We make the best decisions we can for our children, even if those decisions break us. And let me tell you, I was broken. It was the hardest decision that I’ve ever had to make in my life, but ultimately, I did what I had to do.

Sometimes it’s not always easy to know what the best option is, though. Maybe it’s to be a birthmother, or maybe it’s to keep the baby and raise the child on your own. Maybe it’s to have an abortion. 

A person’s choices are their own, and depending on the circumstances, they can all be valid. After working through my options, though, I knew that adoption was the right route for me, no matter how difficult. Here are some of the factors that helped me make that choice. Read More

Opening Adoption Records Allows Adoptees To Know Who They Are

This guest post is by Faith Getz Rousso, an adoptee and adoption attorney.

November. Adoption Awareness. This is the time each year where “we” hear/read/see adoption related podcasts, articles and news stories.

Those in the adoption-world live adoption each day, 365 days of each year.  Who are the “we”? We are adoptees, we are adoptive parents, and we are biological parents and adoption professionals.

I wear two hats. I was adopted at 17 months old. I am an adoptee. I am an attorney who practices adoption law. I am an adoption professional.

The topic of adoptee rights, whether adult adoptees should have the ability to request and obtain a certified copy of their original long form birth certificate (“OBC”) without restrictions is a hot topic.  It is one that has been in the news all month. Read More

Finding My Birthmother

This guest post is by Jennifer Anglin, an adoptee and motivational speaker.

My husband and I had always joked about my origin of birth because of my dark skin.

When DNA kits went on sale, he suggested that for just for fun we should buy one to see where I came from. 

One day, when I was sitting at my desk at work, a text message came from my husband. He asked if I had thought about what I would do if the ancestry DNA revealed information about my biological family.

I immediately replied that if it happened it happened. I was ok with it because if it did, God must have thought I needed to know about it.

That’s when he told me that he had found my mother. Just like that– “I found your mom.” Read More

How To Make The Most of the Holidays with Your Child’s Birth Parents

This guest post is by Alana Redmond, a legal content writer.

An open adoption is a very special opportunity for a child to grow up in a network of love and support from both parents.

The holidays are an even more important time to spend with loved ones and share memories that will last a lifetime.

Every open adoption is different so it’s important to consider a few factors before jumping full-swing into the holiday season. 

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