Looking for parents to adopt your baby?
Finding the right adoptive parents can be overwhelming, but it can also help you find peace with your decision to choose adoption and ensure that your child grows up in a loving, safe and supportive home.
When it comes to finding an adoptive family, there are so many things to consider not just for the time being but also for the future. Sometimes it’s hard to know where to begin and what to look for.
A good place to start is to learn more about your options and what’s involved in the adoption process. Doing your research now will increase the likelihood of things go smoother in the future if you decide to go ahead with your adoption plan.
Adoption is a loving decision. It’s about putting your baby’s needs above your own and giving him or her the kind of life you would like to give but are unable to do at this moment.
Although it may seem strange to you to find a family of strangers to raise your child for you there is no shortage of families that would jump at the chance to to provide a loving home for your child.
Our website, for instance, has dozens of adoption-approved and adoption-ready families who are hoping to adopt a baby. Many of them have waited years to start a family and gone through a rigorous screening process to make sure they are prepared to raise a child through adoption.
But it’s not the only place you can find families for your baby. There are other places, including adoption agencies, through word of mouth and on other websites and online social networks.
However, before you move forward with your plan it’s important to get yourself up to speed on what’s involved on your end. And one person that can help you do that is a licensed adoption counsellor.
You can find them through a Google search. They are also available through adoption agencies and crisis pregnancy centers.
Finding Parents For Your Baby
It’s important to know what to expect before you go through the process because your feelings about finding a family may change over time as you get closer to your delivery date and learn more about how everything works.
Finding parents for your baby can be a wonderful option if you’re not ready or able to parent yourself. Through them, you can give you child the future you want go provide.
Today, the majority of adoptions are open. That means that you can not only choose the adoptive parents for your baby, you can speak to them, meet them (depending on the COVID restrictions where you and they live!), and create a plan about how much contact you want to have with them after your baby is born.
The options range from keeping in touch by phone, text or letter to getting together them at family occasions and special milestone.
Unlike foster care, which involves placing your baby with a family on a temporary basis, adoption is permanent. That means that once you sign the adoption papers you can’t go back and get the decision overturned.
Changing Your Mind About The Family
Every state has different laws about placing a baby for adoption. It’s important to know what they are in your state and what your options are if you change your mind about the family or even about adoption. Most states offer a cooling off period where you have the option to change your mind. The time range varies from a few days to a few weeks.
Knowing what the laws are governing finding a family for your baby is important. You don’t have to be an expert on them, but you should be familiar with them and be able to answer basic questions such as:
- How much does it cost to find a family to adopt my baby?
- Who pays for it?
- What happens if i change my mind about the parents I’ve chosen or placing my baby?
- How long do I have to change my mind
- What happens if i don’t like the adoptive parents?
- How much does it cost if i change my mind?
Here are some really brief answers: There no cost to you to place your baby. The adopting parents are responsible for covering all of your fees. You can change your mind any time before the placement. Afterwards, it’s harder and, as we mentioned, it depends on the adoption laws in your state.
Choosing Another Family To Raise Your Child
If you don’t like adoptive parents you’ve chosen there’s no obligation to move forward with them. And it doesn’t cost you anything to change your mind, either about them or if you decide that adoption is not right for you. Parenting your child is always one of your options.
Finding qualified adoption professionals to explain your options and guide you through the process is key. They will make each step less overwhelming and help you build confidence about your decision, whatever it may be.
It’s also important to surround yourself with positive supportive people. Finding parents for your child can be very stressful and complicated, especially if the baby’s feather or your family or friends don’t agree with your decision.
Birthmothers Can Share Their Experiences
Birthmothers—women who have placed their baby for adoption–and birthmother support groups can take some of the pressure off your decision. They can share their experiences and point out some of the red flags when it comes to choosing adoptive parents for your baby and what experiences you can expect to encounter in the years ahead.
Of course, every situation is different and the highs and lows that they’ve felt may not be the same as the ones you’ll feel. Still, finding adoptive parents is an unpredictable process and anything you can find out now will reduce the guess work and stress down the road.
If you know or have a relationship with the baby’s father it’s important to involve him in all of the decision-making as well. Not only will it minimize problems in the future, especially if he opposes your decision, but it will also give you a chance to split up your duties and ease some of your decision-making.
Finding the right parents for your baby can give you the peace of mind and confidence you need to move forward with your decision and feel good about your and your baby’s future. With planning and the right adoption specialists to guide you through the process, you will eventually know whether it’s the right decision for you and how to best move forward with your adoption plan.
Learn more about our hopeful adoptive families.