Open adoption is a marathon, not a sprint. It takes time — some would say, a lifetime — to fully understand. Most people have a vague idea about what’s involved in the process. But without a doubt the ones who understand it best are those who have adopted or are trying to adopt now. That’s why we’ve been asking hopeful adoptive parents from our Find A Family Parent Registry to share their open adoption experiences, stories and advice.
This guest post is by Preetha, a hopeful adoptive mother. Although we are not parents, we are currently “pet parents.” We have a 2 1/2 -year-old dog, Mia, whom we adopted as a puppy. We were instrumental in teaching her a lot of things including respecting boundaries, all the basic commands, and silly tricks. At the same time, she has taught us several things that we are trying to implement as we are going through our adoption journey.
This guest post is by Preetha, a hopeful adoptive mother. A few weeks ago, I received a call from a potential birth mother. This was the first time I actually talked with one. My previous contacts were all via email. From my perspective, it was a good conversation. She explained her situation to me and asked me more details about myself and my husband.
This guest post is by Don, a hopeful adoptive father. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day. My wife and I started our adoption journey approximately a year ago. During this time we’ve been contacted five times by prospective birth moms. Unfortunately none of these contacts worked out for various reasons beyond our control. I am not sure how typical this experience is for couples pursuing open adoption, but
This guest post is by Preetha, a hopeful adoptive mother. A few days ago, I met with a friend to help her build her résumé. As we were working on it, I realized how similar it is to writing an adoption profile or “Dear Birth Mother” letter. In fact, letters to prospective birth parents are sometimes referred to as “a family résumé.” Although the two are different in terms of intent and audience, we saw the following similarities.
This guest post is by Preetha, a hopeful adoptive parent. Among all my married colleagues and friends, I’m the only one who doesn’t have a child. A few years ago, it didn’t really bother me. But over time, I started noticing that I was being left out: left out of get-togethers (that were predominantly child-oriented), left out of emails, and left out of conversations (again predominantly focused on children). I also noticed that people were starting to ask questions or