We already love you and pray for you. We adopted our daughter Audrey in 2019 and have grown in love for her birth family. They hold a special place in our hearts and lives because of their role in bringing Audrey to us. We value and respect our daughter’s birth family. We promise the same for you. While we don’t know exactly what it’s like to be in your shoes, we know what loss feels like. We know what sadness and sacrifice feel like. And we have tremendous respect for you. We have a wonderfully open adoption with our daughter’s birth family. We have family that have placed children for adoption, and we have family who were themselves adopted. We have witnessed all sides of the story. One thing that we want to make absolutely clear is that in our home, birth parents are loved, respected, and admired.
Profession: English Teacher, High School
Education: Masters Degree
Interests: collecting vinyl records, writing, reading, photography, painting
Profession: Stay-at-home parent
Education: Bachelor Degree
Interests: Music, dance, Lego, puzzles, parenting
Years Together: 5
Other Children: a 2-year old daughter through adoption
Pets: a 12 year old cocker spaniel named Chuck
Age: No Preference
Gender: No Preference
Ethnicity: No preference
Special Needs: Open To Discussion
Type of Adoption: Open
Our Home & Community
We have an excellent support system, both in Arizona and in Utah. Dennis is the youngest of five and Valerie is the third of four. Between the two of us, we have 21 nieces and nephews! We visit Arizona at least twice a year. Family is the most important thing to us. We are also active in our church community, volunteering as teachers and youth leaders. We have a modest, clean, and comfortable home with room to grow. Our backyard is sizeable and there is a park being built within walking distance from our house. We love our small neighborhood, and we are happy to live in this community.
Our Thoughts about Parenting & Adoption
We both wanted children our whole lives. Since we met, we anticipated that adoption was in our future, and open adoption has always been our goal. Since Audrey joined us, we have put our values and goals into practice. We are happy to share some of them with you, and we hope that they resonate with your dreams for your baby.
We value kindness. We have both seen how rude remarks, sarcasm, and anger can tear families apart. We try every day to be kind, even when tension is high and we are stressed or upset. We hope to teach our children to be kind to one another and to others. We believe that family is the best place to practice kindness.
We value forgiveness. We know that we are going to make mistakes. We have made mistakes with each other, and we strive to forgive quickly. We believe that most people do not intend to cause harm. We believe in the goodness of people and try to forgive when we are hurt. We believe that it is important to acknowledge our parenting mistakes, and to ask forgiveness of our children when we mess up.
We value education and learning. We believe in learning together. We believe in helping our children be successful and adapting learning experiences to their individual needs. We expect our children to graduate high school and college with good grades, and we believe in encouraging them to find their passion.
We value fun and laughter. Since we have been married, there has not been a single day that we have not laughed at least once, even in the most trying circumstances. We believe in being silly and in finding humor in life’s situations. We feel that laughter and fun are essential to a good life, and we work to make our home as fun and happy as we can. Dance parties to the spinning vinyl records are a regular occurrence.
We believe in God. We know that He is our Father and that He loves us. We have faith in His Son, Jesus Christ, as the Savior of our souls. We pray together and we read scriptures together. While we do not always understand some of the challenges we are asked to face, we know that Heavenly Father loves us as a parent loves a child. Someday we all will know the reasons behind your struggles and ours, and we will have joy with our families forever.
We value birth families. Biological connection is important in adoption. It is our desire that our children know who they are and where they come from. We feel that in order to have a successful open adoption, love needs to be at the center of all of it. Not only love for the child, but also love for each other. We are incredibly blessed to enjoy a fulfilling and positive relationship with our daughter’s birth family, and we hope to have the same openness with a future birth family.
Please feel free to reach out to us with any questions. We are happy to get to know you and see if we are the right fit for you and your child. We are reachable via email (firstname.lastname@example.org), Facebook (www.facebook.com/DennisAndValerie), Instagram (@DennisAndValerie), or our website (www.DennisAndValerie.com)