We imagine that getting to this point has been very challenging for you and we pray that you have the support that you need as you are making your decision and moving forward. We truly admire your bravery and courage to make this choice for yourself and your child. We are incredibly grateful that you are considering us; it brings us great joy knowing you want to learn more about us. We long to share our lives with a child through adoption, and probably the most important part of that process is also sharing a piece of our lives with you. It is difficult for us to fully portray ourselves through this letter, but we hope our love for one another and the love we hope to share with you and your child shines through. We are so lucky to have each other and have such a wonderful life together, but there is also emptiness in our hearts waiting for our child. It is our deepest longing to be parents, and we would go to the ends of the earth to fulfill that dream and find our child.
Profession: Clinical Social Worker
Education: Masters Degree
Interests: Being outdoors- particularly surfing, paddleboarding, swimming, etc, animals and spending time with my dogs, time with family and friends, music and art, running, cooking
Profession: Business Owner/Operator
Education: Bachelor Degree
Interests: Outdoor activities-fishing, camping, and hiking, carpentry and home improvement projects, listening to music at the house or at venue, cooking, football and travel
Years Together: 10
City: Virginia Beach
Other Children: No
Pets: 2 dogs (Willow and Blossom) and a cat (Stella)
Age: Up to 2 years
Gender: No Preference
Special Needs: Open To Discussion
Type of Adoption: Open
We met through a mutual friend over 10 years ago. Our love grew early in our relationship and we knew we had something special. Our first few years of dating were full of fun and adventure. Katy has a very large friend group that is extremely important to her. We regularly planned activities with Katy’s friends that Kyle joined without hesitation. We travelled together; spent holidays together, attended friend’s weddings (Katy has been a bridesmaid 13 times), and ate weekly meals together. Kyle quickly integrated into Katy’s group of friends and became one of the “frizzles” as they called themselves. If Kyle could fit in with this group and hold his own, we knew he was a true life partner. We knew we wanted to become parents before we were married, so we started our journey to parenthood shortly after marrying. We had discussed and considered adoption and foster care, and we began pursuing these paths about a year after realizing that biological children may not be part of our path to parenthood. We started by becoming licensed foster parents while also researching adoption agencies.Becoming foster parents to our foster daughter was one of most joyous moments of our life although we recognize it came out of significant hardship for her and her parents. We fully opened our hearts to her knowing she might not be with us long term. The love that grew for her was unlike anything we’ve experienced. We know we will experience this on an even higher level with a child of our own and cannot wait for this. Our love for one another also grew through this experience as we witnessed each other nurture this child with such delicate care and concern. Kyle’s soft spirit became even softer and Katy’s motherly instincts were only heightened. We held each other in tears as we said goodbye to her when we handed her over to her family members who would continue to help her grow and thrive. We continue to maintain a relationship with her and are close with her family. And they have supported us as we pursue adoption- they are such a wonderful family and we love them so much!
Our Home & Community
The city that we live in is a very vibrant and family-oriented community to raise a child. Our life here is the beach life- we live three blocks from the beach! Our beach has a 2.5-mile long boardwalk with many restaurants and shops where we love to walk our dogs and bike. From our home we can walk or bike to dinner, to our grocery store, to our friends’ homes, the farmers market, the art district, and to get ice cream at our favorite local spot. In the summer there are so many activities at the beach including beach concerts, art shows, and surfing competitions. The elementary school and middle school are within walking distance from our house and many families walk to school every morning. There are several playgrounds within walking distance, including three that are right on the beach. We love visiting our local state park on the Chesapeake Bay as well (about two miles away from our home) where we fish, paddleboard, walk our dogs, and enjoy nature. We live in a single-family home with three bedrooms. Kyle has training as a carpenter and has done many projects at our home including adding a master bathroom, building an outdoor shower, and building an outdoor pergola. We enjoy spending time at our home together and with friends and family, and especially love to cook and grill and spend time on our outdoor patio and pergola.
Our Thoughts about Parenting & Adoption
We became foster parents about one year ago; we knew we had so much love to give a child and felt this was a way to serve others and give back to children in our community. We also knew this was a way for us to experience parenthood in some capacity. In February, we fostered a beautiful baby girl (our first foster child), bringing her home from the hospital at just two weeks old. Our foster daughter was only with us for four months, but we loved every minute of parenting her during this time. We thrived as a couple while parenting her; we were very much in sync in sharing the duties of caring for her. We truly enjoyed spending time with her, holding her and feeding her, taking her out on walks, and introducing her to new sights and sounds. Despite the unique and at times chaotic way we entered into parenting, it felt so natural to us. We knew prior to our foster daughter that we had a love for children, but parenting her only solidified this love and longing to be parents. Being parents would mean sharing our lives with children of our own, introducing them to all of the activities we love the most. The joy that we experience having children in our lives like our nephews and our foster daughter is something we could simply never live without. We hope that having children of our own will only multiply that joy.
We cannot begin to imagine the complex nature of your decision and the very difficult emotions that you are experiencing, but we hope to wrap our love and hearts around you and your child, so you know you are not alone. We cannot wait to connect with you, and we only pray that this connection will offer hope and light to you. Thank you again for taking the time to read our story, and we hope to speak with you soon!