Hello! We’re Nick & Jeff!
We’re already partners, husbands, uncles, and best friends. Now we’re seeking a promotion: we’re ready to add “daddies” to that list. Even as little boys we longed to become fathers one day – it’s a dream that means the world to us.
We recently moved cross country to Denver, Colorado for the mountains, the adventures, and the sunshine – but MOSTLY to be closer to our nephews. (Okay… and their parents too!) Now we live just one mile away from Graham (5) and Aiden (3) and get to be a regular part of their lives! They have filled our hearts with so much joy, play, and laughter. We’re head-over-heels for these boys, and in love with being their uncles.
We have a rock-solid marriage, a wonderful family, a beautiful home, and lots of love to share – especially with our future birth family. (Plus we’ve also been practicing our “dad jokes.” #Prepared)
Profession: Director of Hotel Marketing
Education: Bachelor Degree
Interests: At heart I’m just a great big kid. I have a huge imagination, I still make time to be a goofball and to play, and I love to make people laugh.
Profession: Sales Manager
Education: Bachelor Degree
Interests: My favorite thing about life is laughter, and I am a lucky man because my life is full of it.
Years Together: 3
Other Children: No
Pets: We have a sweet kitty names Lucille
Age: 0-6 Months
Gender: No Preference
Ethnicity: No Preference
Special Needs: Open To Discussion
Type of Adoption: No Preference
Picture it… Christmastime… 2018…
A mutual friend had just introduced us online, and we were texting. Non-stop. We both felt an immediate connection… but we were still trying to keep our feet on the ground…
The effort was futile.
Our first date was a few days later, and our connection was undeniable. It was love-at-first-sight. We’ve been inseparable ever since.
Ever the romantics, we both knew we’d eventually find each other. (It was already written in the stars.) We feel the same way about the child that will come into our lives. (They’re the “little dipper” to our “big.”) We already have love beyond measure on reserve for them.
Fast forward… we got married, moved cross country, built a beautiful home together, took incredible vacations, and even got matching ampersand tattoos. (Oh… and Christmastime has never been more magical.)
We’re ready for our next great chapter of our story: Fatherhood.
Our Home & Community
We looooove our new home in Denver. Furnishing and decorating it has been so much fun. We’ve already made so many wonderful memories here: Sunday family dinners, our Christmas cookie baking marathon, and our New Year’s Eve bash top the list. (“Bash” by pandemic standards)
We have plenty of room for guests, Nick has a really cool home office, and our back patio has quickly become one of our favorite hangout spots. Our basement is a big hit with our nephews: we added colorful murals, a well stocked playroom with a cozy hidden fort, and a projector for movie nights!
Living in Denver is so exciting – there’s so much to do and explore. From the end of our street we can see the entire front range of the Rocky Mountains – which frequently call us to go hiking. Our neighborhood is full of parks, playgrounds and bike paths.
The Highlands are home to some of our all-time-favorite restaurants, and the RINO District has some of the greatest street art we’ve ever seen.
Best of all – it LITERALLY takes longer to listen to an entire song on the radio than it does to drive to our nephew’s house. It’s magical living so close to our tribe.
Our Thoughts about Parenting & Adoption
We’ve been discussing our thoughts on parenting since even before our first date. This is one of the most important (and most beautiful) ways that we’re compatible. At the core of it all we believe in absolutely unconditional love.We often daydream about who our child will grow up to be – but that decision will be completely up to them. They will grow up knowing that they’re loved for exactly who they are.Unconditionally.We will provide an environment for their imagination, creativity, and confidence to thrive, and we will model for them how to find strength through vulnerability, how to identify and process feelings, and how empathy is a superpower. We will be their biggest fans, their safe harbor, and their rock solid foundation.
Family is much more than blood. RuPaul is famous for saying “As gay people, we get to choose our families.”
We’re blessed that the love of our immediate family is amplified by the love of so many chosen brothers and sisters, parents and grandparents, friends and teachers.
We hope our family will grow to include the birth family of the child we’ll adopt (After all, how could we possibly love a child, but not those who gave them life?), but no matter what form our relationship takes we’ll build it together, and make sure it works for everyone. Especially the child.
As Glennon Doyle says in her book: Untamed, “There is no one way to live, love, raise children, arrange a family, run a school, a community, a nation. The norms were created by somebody, and each of us is somebody. We can make our own normal.”
We can’t even begin to imagine what considering adoption feels like, but we want you to know that you can count on us to be empathetic, honest, respectful and compassionate. You can also count on us to provide a home overflowing with love, support, and belly laughs.
Thank you for being here, and for your consideration.
With love and gratitude,
Nick & Jeff