Among all my married colleagues and friends, I’m the only one who doesn’t have a child. A few years ago, it didn’t really bother me.
But over time, I started noticing that I was being left out: left out of get-togethers (that were predominantly child-oriented), left out of emails, and left out of conversations (again predominantly focused on children).
I also noticed that people were starting to ask questions or make assumptions about why I wasn’t having a baby. They were surprised that as a woman in her thirties, I don’t have at least a pre-teen. That’s when it started getting to me. Continue reading →